Catching your husband looking at other women
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Anonymous
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Very happily married for 20 years but occasionally I’ll notice my husband looking
at another woman, a stranger, casually and I can’t help but be jealous. A few times I’ve seen him looking at sexual images of women on his phone. These are super rare occurrences but also still piss me off. We have a great relationship, a pretty hot sex life, and are doing well overall - so I should probably chalk it up to human nature and let it go. Just wondering if this happens to anyone else? |
Anonymous
| I'm a woman in a very happy relationship. It's perfectly normal and not sure why it would piss you off. Other than maybe gawking inappropriately or making comments, I'm sure a part of it is almost involuntary. I notice men too. I'm sure you do too. |
Anonymous
| My husband and I have both busted the other one for this at one time or another. It’s not often and usually just in passing so nbd. |
Anonymous
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When my DH and first started dating there was an incident where he was staring at a really beautiful woman. I said "This is really rude." And he kept staring. And I said "This is really disrespectful," and he looked at me and said "huh?" And I said "You are literally staring at that woman!" and he looked back towards her and said "Look at her shoes." I did, and saw nothing but shoes. Then he said "They are like two sizes too big." They were, lol. He catches all kinds of weird details like that, and stares.
Not really what you were getting at, though, I suppose. |
Anonymous
| The phone issue is a reg flag imo. |
Anonymous
| It's fine. |
Anonymous
| Is this a new thing with your husband? Seems pretty normal to me that he would want to, but most men learn how to be discreet by the age of 30. |
Anonymous
| My husband can't stop starring of photos of Jessica Alba and a few other beautiful ladies. It's nothing. Men are men. They are visual. Same for women. I stare at Michael B Jordan, Pitt (back in the day), etc. |
Anonymous
Are you under the impression that your husband doesn’t look at porn? |
Anonymous
Sorry, I meant to respond to the person who said the phone was a red flag. Not you. Of course it’s fine. |
Anonymous
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If it’s so obvious that you’re noticing (both in public and on his phone), it’s a big issue imo.
Noticing attractive people is natural. Breaking your neck to ogle is NOT. |
Anonymous
| Yea, I'm like that. I let my H know when we were dating I would rather be single than with a man who behaved that way and I still mean that to this day. He knows I'm serious, so I haven't had any issues. |
Anonymous
| My husband isn’t blind nor am I. We don’t stare or salivate so I don’t care. We’ve been happily married a long time. Unless he’s obnoxious I’d just chill. |
Anonymous
| I am a DH and some women just have incredibly beautiful asses. It's hard not to look when they are in front of you. However when DW is around I never look at other women. |
Anonymous
| You just don’t do it for him anymore. |