His own child asked him when he didn’t offer and he declined. The deceased always wished to be cremated after the service. This is not unusual. We would have to transport a body an hour away and then back. It’s not cheap as a hearse is needed. We will probably rent a chapel at the funeral home although his church is 13 minutes away. |
Both were non-denominational Christians. |
I thought the person was cremated? Why are you bringing the body anywhere? |
I thought the person was cremated? Why are you bringing the body anywhere? The deceased no longer gets to call the shots when others are footing the bill. |
Well, that's that then. He must have his reasons. Stop stewing and move on. |
What was the pastor-relative’s relationship with the deceased? Could there be more going on there with the pastor and his feelings toward the deceased than you might be aware of?
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good point. He's dead now. It's time to forget about his wishes and do what makes sense for the living. You tried and it didn't work. |
Unfortunately, the deceased did not make the appropriate paid-for arrangements in advance, so it will have to be what works for the bereaved and what they can afford. Did the deceased have relational problems that made some relatives less willing to step up after death? It sounds as though there might be some history here that’s not being presented in the OP or the follow up posts. |
agree with all this. most cremated people have a memorial services after the cremains are ready, not a body at the funeral, cremate after. transporting a body around is not easy and it is expensive, and an unnecessary expense for those having to pay for it. if pastor relative declined, there is a reason you may not be privy to. can other relative pastor do the service at other pastors church? that would involve less carting around of the body. |
They'll be fine if you focus more on their physical and mental health and making them happy, kind and productive people. That's more important than trying to teach them why your particular brand of race, religion, language, culture, blood group and class is superior to others. |
Thousands to transport cremated remains? |
Drama queen alert!
Not offering is NOT the same as refusing. Jfc. I bet if you offered to pay for a service he’d be more open (and may not even take your money), but either way, this is a you problem. Sorry for your loss. |
Cremate the body and disperse the ashes in flowing water. Done and Done. Do not need a priest even. You can spread it by yourself and just bless the soul to have a good onwards journey.
No mortal remains are left in a significant manner that the living or the departed have any connection to the dead body. |
How do we know your relative’s position on this? Did you ask them? We don’t know about your relative whatsoever. |
OP is so immersed in their resentment that they can't even come up with the relevant facts. |