If you are proud of your adult children's careers...what do they do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine were super proud of my medical degree and profession but I decided to become a SAHM. I wasn't happy in my career and didn't want to live to keep fulfilling their dreams. They were happy I was happy.

Wut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine were super proud of my medical degree and profession but I decided to become a SAHM. I wasn't happy in my career and didn't want to live to keep fulfilling their dreams. They were happy I was happy.

Wut?

What about her statement did not not understand?

[Anonymous]

3 kids: chef, technical editor and lawyer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even if they aren't doing great on paper or checking boxes of prestigious jobs, high income, nice house, marriage and 2.5 kids but trying their level best, that's a good enough reason to be proud.

This.

[Anonymous]

One doctor, one in social media sales and one stay at home mom. I’m very proud of all of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your pride shouldn't be tied to their careers and salaries but their ability to function as healthy, productive, conscientious adults carving a good life for themselves and others around them.

Well, I’m still proud of my daughter who has profound disabilities and can’t do any of the things that you think pride should be based on.

[Anonymous]

Well I’ll be the bad guy, I am so ashamed of my child’s career. I’m debating cutting him off over it since I’m embarrassed to tell my friends where he works.

[Anonymous]

Doctor and lawyer both = pride.

Teacher, not so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I’ll be the bad guy, I am so ashamed of my child’s career. I’m debating cutting him off over it since I’m embarrassed to tell my friends where he works.

Do it.

Sounds like he needs a kick in the pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I’ll be the bad guy, I am so ashamed of my child’s career. I’m debating cutting him off over it since I’m embarrassed to tell my friends where he works.

Do it.

Sounds like he needs a kick in the pants.

Yes. His title is ‘DOGE employee’. I do not know what that is. But it does not sound legitimate!

[Anonymous]

Mine is a civil engineer. Employed, has his own place. Very proud of him. He worked hard for this.

[Anonymous]

Both are in tech. DD and DS.

Both of them were academically focussed from childhood. Avid readers. Excelled in a lot of nerdy pursuits. Well mannered and beloved kids in our friends circle. Very kind people, volunteer for their favorite causes, have a great and diverse circle of friends. Have great sense of humor. Have worked hard and walked on the straight path. The kind of kids that became the favorite of their teachers and mentors. In their work place, they win accolades and are liked by bosses and coworkers. They have a gentle but firm way about them.

As adults, they are responsible, well informed, capable, frugal and disciplined.

[Anonymous]

Proud of any adult making their way with all their abilities. So for most that means being employed, paying own way for rent/mortgage, insurance-health/car/home, medical, food, phone… in other words, acting like the adult their age says they are.

Above adjusted if any reasons cannot do above on own if not parent-created/enabled reasons.

[Anonymous]

Software Developer. Not proud - but Mainly just thrilled that they are self-sufficient and making $200k just 3 years out of school. They are able to save more than we were - with zero student loans and minimal bills.

My younger kid has always wanted to be a doctor/lawyer but now is less intrigued. ( I think the driver was the money and prestige). They now want more autonomy, want to dress casual, and looking at the older sibling, they now want a flexible and casual work environment and be on their own 3 years out of school. They have done research and watched "day in the life of" videos and cannot imagine the pressure and physically dressing up and going to work and being "on" and with and actually using their brains that much. Kids these days LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Software Developer. Not proud - but Mainly just thrilled that they are self-sufficient and making $200k just 3 years out of school. They are able to save more than we were - with zero student loans and minimal bills.

My younger kid has always wanted to be a doctor/lawyer but now is less intrigued. ( I think the driver was the money and prestige). They now want more autonomy, want to dress casual, and looking at the older sibling, they now want a flexible and casual work environment and be on their own 3 years out of school. They have done research and watched "day in the life of" videos and cannot imagine the pressure and physically dressing up and going to work and being "on" and with and actually using their brains that much. Kids these days LOL

Why are you not proud of your successful software engineer kid?