My gf offered to ask a family friend to stay at their place in NYC. The family friend is really her ex’s family friend….

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

We have family friends like this. They have multiple properties and are constantly letting people use them. They are just generally very generous share the wealth type people. Even though I can easily afford a hotel in NYC, they would be offended that I didn't ask if their place was free for the time I was going.

[Anonymous]

You lost me at "they live right between Central Park and Times sq" "to be exact"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

We have family friends like this. They have multiple properties and are constantly letting people use them. They are just generally very generous share the wealth type people. Even though I can easily afford a hotel in NYC, they would be offended that I didn't ask if their place was free for the time I was going.

+1

They have so many properties that they can’t be at all at once, so they love having others stay at their home(s). It’s not a big deal really. They love this kind of stuff.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

It’s not always that transactional - seems like she was really close to her ex family.

[Anonymous]

WAS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

Agree. Very odd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was look at hotels in NYC for March, which I mentioned to my girlfriend. She mentioned that if I wanted she could ask this family friend to stay at their place in the NYC. Now, this family is truly a friend of her ex.

This family is very rich. They live in NOVA but also own a multi million dollar condo in NYC. Right between Times Square and Central Park to be exact. Apparently they keep the place fully stocked with top shelf everything and offer to make reservations and pay for really nice restaurants. I told her no because this is connected to her ex. She said she understood but they loved her, that she’s still close to the family, and didn’t really care for her ex because he was such a screw up but tolerated him because of their son.

She and her ex were together 5 years and they broke up less than a year ago.
Isn’t it kind of weird and insulting that she’d suggest asking to stay at their place knowing it’s a connection to the ex?

So people love being in close proximity to wealth. She definitely remembers the access to wealth with her ex. This is something you need to think about. How quickly will she leave if someone flashes that cash!

I don't know about that. We were watching a show where the SO was struggling financially, so I told her yesterday if she ever needed money she could always ask me. She said thank you but she would never ask me for money and that she’d rather work a second job than ask me for money.

Nice troll post!!

You had me going for a minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

Agree. Very odd.

Their son died not too long ago and she stepped up in a major way to help them. Was there cooking every night for them. Went on walks with the dad to get him out of the house. According to her they already really liked her but their son passing and her being there for them I guess sealed the deal. At the funeral there were only about 8 people invited and she was one of them. My gf’s mom died a few months ago and they returned the favor. They are close and they just love her I guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

Agree. Very odd.

Their son died not too long ago and she stepped up in a major way to help them. Was there cooking every night for them. Went on walks with the dad to get him out of the house. According to her they already really liked her but their son passing and her being there for them I guess sealed the deal. At the funeral there were only about 8 people invited and she was one of them. My gf’s mom died a few months ago and they returned the favor. They are close and they just love her I guess?

She sounds like a really nice person with good friends. You should accept the offer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

Agree. Very odd.

Their son died not too long ago and she stepped up in a major way to help them. Was there cooking every night for them. Went on walks with the dad to get him out of the house. According to her they already really liked her but their son passing and her being there for them I guess sealed the deal. At the funeral there were only about 8 people invited and she was one of them. My gf’s mom died a few months ago and they returned the favor. They are close and they just love her I guess?

Knowing all of that, why are you being difficult and refusing the offer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy her some hot lingerie and bang her all over that $$$$$$ pied a terre. Use the money you saved on the hotel to have a few high end meals. Give her some new memories of that place.

This isn’t rocket science.

Love this and co-sign

-A woman

[Anonymous]

No thanks.

[Anonymous]

You should dump her. She deserves someone who doesn't try to control her and isolate her from her friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Imho tendency to freeload isn't a good characteristic. I would stay where I can afford instead of asking for favors.

Rich people swap homes all the time, and do each other favors

Keywords are swap and each other. They may like sharing with family and close friends and wouldn't mind if their kids, siblings, sibling-in law or nieces/nephews bring their significant others or best friends. A nephew's ex asking to stay her new BF is rather odd in my opinion.

I fully understand concept of house sitters but those come with waivers and get covered by liability in case something happens.

Agree. Very odd.

Their son died not too long ago and she stepped up in a major way to help them. Was there cooking every night for them. Went on walks with the dad to get him out of the house. According to her they already really liked her but their son passing and her being there for them I guess sealed the deal. At the funeral there were only about 8 people invited and she was one of them. My gf’s mom died a few months ago and they returned the favor. They are close and they just love her I guess?

Knowing all of that, why are you being difficult and refusing the offer?

because me me me me me me me