Dad in our friend group had a mental break and threatened to kill another child in the friend group, advice needed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should not have called the police for a "welfare check", you should have called saying he has threatened you/someone with a gun.

You have the text - that is a threat
He has the ability to carry it out - picture of a gun.

That is against the law.

He gets arrested, is forced to get help.

Yep. But too late for that now.

Take him out of text loops, cut off parents. Let your kid know the girls are always welcome in your home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a wild story. Why didn’t anybody call the cops when he was “ and the dad came to the door with a cocked gun in his hand, waving it around, and ranting that he was going to end it all, he had checked his life insurance policy”?

To answer your question, I could never get past that. I wouldn’t trust him or his wife. I feel bad for their children, but you have to think of your safety first. does he have any criminal records?

I would think most people would have called the police at that time.

Op this is far too detailed.

[Anonymous]

This is so bad that I would move, including switching schools to get away from this family. He’s clearly mentally unstable and might act on it at any moment. I wouldn’t risk my family’s lives no matter how convenient or how nice of a community you have built.

[Anonymous]

Someone needs to take his guns away and ensure he cannot access weapons. He is a danger to himself and others. This will not end well.

[Anonymous]

In Maryland they could have his guns removed

[Anonymous]

15 families in a neighborhood and everyone goes to the same small private school?! I call BS on that and that made it all ot easy to disregard the rest of the story. ALL MADE UP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd ask Jeff to delete this. That's a lot of details.

But, you can't do anything in this scenario except protect your kids and your family. The proper authorities have been involved.

This. Goodness gracious please don’t give you any secrets

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they live out of town. I would make it clear to the girls that they can always come to your house if they are afraid of their dad’s behavior. Not much else you can do.

They live in our neighborhood. We no longer live in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

I know who this is and it is too much detail you are sharing. I suggest deleting. It now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like her problem, not yours. Your decision is whether to continue to include children in your group or exclude them, and whether to continue to include the adults, both of them or just one, together or separately, or exclude them. Beyond that, the proper authorities are notified and it's their concern now.

Yes, my question is how to address those decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of this is believable.

Ok? I don't know what to tell you. It happened and we're in shock. If you don't want to believe it then move along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know who this is and it is too much detail you are sharing. I suggest deleting. It now

Is any of this true?

And how did you find this thread if they supposedly moved out of the area?

[Anonymous]

Is it Bob?

[Anonymous]

I bet it's Gary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a wild story. Why didn’t anybody call the cops when he was “ and the dad came to the door with a cocked gun in his hand, waving it around, and ranting that he was going to end it all, he had checked his life insurance policy”?

To answer your question, I could never get past that. I wouldn’t trust him or his wife. I feel bad for their children, but you have to think of your safety first. does he have any criminal records?

The cops had just been there and he hadn't let them in. They were called multiple times Sunday night into early Monday morning. They were provided copies of all the texts and the pictures of his guns plus details about everything he said. They only came out twice and said there wasn't anything they could do since he said he wasn't a danger to himself or anyone else. I don't know what else to tell you. A friend who is a criminal lawyer said she wasn't surprised. We all were since I would have thought they'd take him in and put him on a mandatory hold or something but apparently what he did did not rise to that level.