If you love someone can you lie to them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men will say ILY as an act to get side sex and keep it going. And then when caught suddenly throw that person under the bus, call them names and treat them like crap, ghost.

This.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

I’m a horrible liar

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could someone carry on a long term emotional affair, say I love you to the affair partner and still love their spouse?

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I fully believe you can love more than one person. I also believe you can love someone and still lie to them. People are emotionally complicated.

But I'm not sure that's what you're really asking, OP. To me, the question isn't whether your spouse can love more than one person. The question is whether you should be with a person who loves you but chooses to engage in a relationship with someone else and then to lie to you about it. For me, that would be a hard no.

This !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could someone carry on a long term emotional affair, say I love you to the affair partner and still love their spouse?

Yes, definitely. This happens all the time. Also, sometimes people cheat physically with people they love and adore. Most people don't do this but it happens. Sometimes it happens due to boredom or depression. Sometimes it happens due to low self esteem. Sometimes is happens due to a build up of resentment rather than the absence of love. Sometimes it happens due to fear or being dumped by the person the cheater loves most in the world. I know two women who did this, and it became a self fulfilling prophecy both times; in one case the cheated on guy found out and in the other the cheated on guy became so suspicious that the couple had to split.

[Anonymous]

no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could someone carry on a long term emotional affair, say I love you to the affair partner and still love their spouse?

They only love themselves, neither their affair partner nor their spouse. Only reason they think or say they love both, is to save their image in their own and other people's eyes.

[Anonymous]

Can you ? Yes. Should you? No.

I believe it is possible to love a spouse and have love for another person. It’s not always so black and white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:faulty thread title. You can love more than one person thus not a lie.

Ok, if the spouse notices coldness and distance during the affair and asks if they are seeing someone and the spouse having the affair lies repeatedly can they still love the person they are lying to?

Even if they can, how can the betrayed person ever love them again? The betrayed spouse may choose to stay married, but the love is lost. I've experienced it. We never found our way back to love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:faulty thread title. You can love more than one person thus not a lie.

Ok, if the spouse notices coldness and distance during the affair and asks if they are seeing someone and the spouse having the affair lies repeatedly can they still love the person they are lying to?

Even if they can, how can the betrayed person ever love them again? The betrayed spouse may choose to stay married, but the love is lost. I've experienced it. We never found our way back to love.

Would you mind elaborating on the betrayal you dealt with?

[Anonymous]

Yes, my AP both love our spouses, but we love each other too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:faulty thread title. You can love more than one person thus not a lie.

Ok, if the spouse notices coldness and distance during the affair and asks if they are seeing someone and the spouse having the affair lies repeatedly can they still love the person they are lying to?

Even if they can, how can the betrayed person ever love them again? The betrayed spouse may choose to stay married, but the love is lost. I've experienced it. We never found our way back to love.

Would you mind elaborating on the betrayal you dealt with?

I’m not the PP you replied to but I have experienced this exact scenario and we never found our way back to love either. Betrayal for me was how he lied to me many times when I asked (and had proof) before he came clean. I can’t get over how easily he lied to me. The love and trust for me never came back. We tried for years.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I never thought this was possible because when I am in love it's all consuming and intense. But then it happened to me.

[Anonymous]

I think it is possible to love two people yes