PSA to middle aged divorced dads on Hinge who are "open to children"

[Anonymous]

Hinge has a prompt “want kids” for men/women who want to make more babies

The “open to kids” means these divorced dads are open to dating single moms who already have kids

[Anonymous]

I am not sure what is wrong with you. I am 47f and divorced and I do not find it offensive. I also take it to mean they are okay with my kids. I date 29-47. I think you are really overthinking this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hinge has a prompt “want kids” for men/women who want to make more babies

The “open to kids” means these divorced dads are open to dating single moms who already have kids

+1. That is my interpretation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hinge has a prompt “want kids” for men/women who want to make more babies

The “open to kids” means these divorced dads are open to dating single moms who already have kids

+1. That is my interpretation.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No man who is a good, involved father and a moral, respectable person would say this. Either a) you don't really parent the children you already have, so a couple more doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Or b) you don't actually want more children, but you do want to match with younger women, and you don't care if you waste their fertility window.

I'm an attractive divorced 40 yo mom and before I made "don't want children" a dealbreaker, I got dozens of you gross dudes slobbering over my profile begging me for a chance every day. As soon as I saw that you're 45+, "have kids" and are also "open to kids" you went directly in the trash because you're a useless loser who is not worth my time. You all deserved to be baby trapped into family #2 by desperate late 30s women who lied about being on birth control.

I'm a woman and I 100% agree with OP on this. I found myself disgusted with most divorced dads on the dating apps because they seemed to have no concept of responsibility for the children they had fathered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am confused. You could just ignore them no? I mean you don't have to respond back to them. I am trying to understand what you are trying to say.

I think OP has some simmering not-so-concealed rage for women in the dating pool that she sees as competition. The idea women who's 10 years younger and 10 pounds lighter and may or may not want children sends her over the edge. But she's sort of blaming some faceless men which is even weirder.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a very nasty miserable human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No man who is a good, involved father and a moral, respectable person would say this. Either a) you don't really parent the children you already have, so a couple more doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Or b) you don't actually want more children, but you do want to match with younger women, and you don't care if you waste their fertility window.

I'm an attractive divorced 40 yo mom and before I made "don't want children" a dealbreaker, I got dozens of you gross dudes slobbering over my profile begging me for a chance every day. As soon as I saw that you're 45+, "have kids" and are also "open to kids" you went directly in the trash because you're a useless loser who is not worth my time. You all deserved to be baby trapped into family #2 by desperate late 30s women who lied about being on birth control.

I'm a woman and I 100% agree with OP on this. I found myself disgusted with most divorced dads on the dating apps because they seemed to have no concept of responsibility for the children they had fathered.

+1. Honestly have no respect for my ex, who has no physical custody of his kids, and is out there dating saying he is open to kids. But, I have even less respect for the woman who fell for his shtick and married him. (Although, I do thank her for taking him off my hands).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No man who is a good, involved father and a moral, respectable person would say this. Either a) you don't really parent the children you already have, so a couple more doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Or b) you don't actually want more children, but you do want to match with younger women, and you don't care if you waste their fertility window.

I'm an attractive divorced 40 yo mom and before I made "don't want children" a dealbreaker, I got dozens of you gross dudes slobbering over my profile begging me for a chance every day. As soon as I saw that you're 45+, "have kids" and are also "open to kids" you went directly in the trash because you're a useless loser who is not worth my time. You all deserved to be baby trapped into family #2 by desperate late 30s women who lied about being on birth control.

Or (c) they want more kids and want to match with someone to have kids with. That you don't like men who express that preference doesn't matter if you are a 40ish mom who already has kids and doesn't want more. Why get all worked up over other people's preferences? It took me a long time to make peace with the fact that not everyone needs to want me, just as I don't need to want everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No man who is a good, involved father and a moral, respectable person would say this. Either a) you don't really parent the children you already have, so a couple more doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Or b) you don't actually want more children, but you do want to match with younger women, and you don't care if you waste their fertility window.

I'm an attractive divorced 40 yo mom and before I made "don't want children" a dealbreaker, I got dozens of you gross dudes slobbering over my profile begging me for a chance every day. As soon as I saw that you're 45+, "have kids" and are also "open to kids" you went directly in the trash because you're a useless loser who is not worth my time. You all deserved to be baby trapped into family #2 by desperate late 30s women who lied about being on birth control.

I'm a woman and I 100% agree with OP on this. I found myself disgusted with most divorced dads on the dating apps because they seemed to have no concept of responsibility for the children they had fathered.

+1. Honestly have no respect for my ex, who has no physical custody of his kids, and is out there dating saying he is open to kids. But, I have even less respect for the woman who fell for his shtick and married him. (Although, I do thank her for taking him off my hands).

How many divorced women have respect for their ex? Exactly zero in my circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No man who is a good, involved father and a moral, respectable person would say this. Either a) you don't really parent the children you already have, so a couple more doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Or b) you don't actually want more children, but you do want to match with younger women, and you don't care if you waste their fertility window.

I'm an attractive divorced 40 yo mom and before I made "don't want children" a dealbreaker, I got dozens of you gross dudes slobbering over my profile begging me for a chance every day. As soon as I saw that you're 45+, "have kids" and are also "open to kids" you went directly in the trash because you're a useless loser who is not worth my time. You all deserved to be baby trapped into family #2 by desperate late 30s women who lied about being on birth control.

I'm a woman and I 100% agree with OP on this. I found myself disgusted with most divorced dads on the dating apps because they seemed to have no concept of responsibility for the children they had fathered.

+1. Honestly have no respect for my ex, who has no physical custody of his kids, and is out there dating saying he is open to kids. But, I have even less respect for the woman who fell for his shtick and married him. (Although, I do thank her for taking him off my hands).

This is what it's about yu and OP are projecting your issues with your ex onto other men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No man who is a good, involved father and a moral, respectable person would say this. Either a) you don't really parent the children you already have, so a couple more doesn't seem like a big deal to you. Or b) you don't actually want more children, but you do want to match with younger women, and you don't care if you waste their fertility window.

I'm an attractive divorced 40 yo mom and before I made "don't want children" a dealbreaker, I got dozens of you gross dudes slobbering over my profile begging me for a chance every day. As soon as I saw that you're 45+, "have kids" and are also "open to kids" you went directly in the trash because you're a useless loser who is not worth my time. You all deserved to be baby trapped into family #2 by desperate late 30s women who lied about being on birth control.

I'm a woman and I 100% agree with OP on this. I found myself disgusted with most divorced dads on the dating apps because they seemed to have no concept of responsibility for the children they had fathered.

As someone who has full custody for his kids and frequently hangs out with other divorced dads who have 50/50 I can tell you some of us understand that responsibility. Women do not have a monopoly on this topic. There are both terrible divorced moma and dads. I got fully custody of my kids because my ex on 2 occasions left her concaine on the kitchen counter. Both times my 15 years old son took picture and call me. Where was she? Passed out high with her bf

[Anonymous]

I'm an older guy and I see plenty of easy-to-spot scam profiles from "women" who say they want, or are open to having children at an advanced age. Of course it makes no sense. They also say they don't smoke, but will date a smoker. Besides the other obvious signs of a scam, like the flowery romantic language in their bio, those are the dead giveaways for a scam. Are you sure these men aren't all phony scammer profiles also?

[Anonymous]

Op is a man and a troll.

[Anonymous]

I think you are WAY overthinking it. Like PP said, it’s likely they mean open to your kids.

That being said, I also agree with the PP that most divorced dads on dating apps are disappointing. The vast majority say their kids anywhere from twice a month to twice a YEAR. Heard a lot of excuses like “I need to put on my own mask first” or “she won’t let me see them” while failing to mention he moved out of state for work or lives in a trailer with 4 other guys.