S/O "I'm in love with you"

[Anonymous]

I say I love you to my kids and friends.

I would not say I was in love with them, to me that has a more amorous connotation of being smitten with someone and just feeling generally loved up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's married.

My thought exactly. OP, this is a disaster in the making.

He will say it to keep the sex coming. It’s basically role play for a married guy.

Or he’s in love with this woman and not his wife. There’s no way to tell based on what is posted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are overanalyzing this to a bizarre extent.

X2

[Anonymous]

Is he married, OP?

It has taken me almost all 38 years of my life to realize and be able to identify how much more women overanalyze stuff men just take for face vaule.

- Female

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's married.

My thought exactly. OP, this is a disaster in the making.

He will say it to keep the sex coming. It’s basically role play for a married guy.

Or he’s in love with this woman and not his wife. There’s no way to tell based on what is posted.

Yeah, but she did say he can't get out of the situation and she is waiting and hoping it will work out. Classic guy leading a woman on to get sex.

Ask me how I know? (Sorry, couldn't resist given the other thread!) But this is true in my case.

[Anonymous]

Terri Schiavo situation huh?

Well OP are you romantically entangled while saying I love you? The difference between ILY and IILWY is romantic. I tell my son I love him constantly and the love is powerful and pure but I am not in love with my son. I tell my husband that I love him and I would say I was in love with him if it came up.

So if you are romantically entangled and you are both saying ILY than don't worry, you're in love. And BTW it certainly doesn't have to be mutual, our history and arts tell a long and storied history of unrequited love being one of the most painful of human conditions.

But if you are like, Terri Schiavo's nurse and he says 'I love you' because he loves you as a person and cares about you because you are very entwined in his life and you say it back but neither of you do anything romantic, then I do not think you could assume that he is romantically in love with you at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's married.

It's way more complicated than that but I'm not going into details.

Oh no. He's married and he's your boss and he's running for public office. Am I close?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Terri Schiavo situation huh?

Well OP are you romantically entangled while saying I love you? The difference between ILY and IILWY is romantic. I tell my son I love him constantly and the love is powerful and pure but I am not in love with my son. I tell my husband that I love him and I would say I was in love with him if it came up.

So if you are romantically entangled and you are both saying ILY than don't worry, you're in love. And BTW it certainly doesn't have to be mutual, our history and arts tell a long and storied history of unrequited love being one of the most painful of human conditions.

But if you are like, Terri Schiavo's nurse and he says 'I love you' because he loves you as a person and cares about you because you are very entwined in his life and you say it back but neither of you do anything romantic, then I do not think you could assume that he is romantically in love with you at all.

He is romantically in love with me and I with him but he's in a difficult situation. I think he would be uncomfortable saying he was "in love" with me whereas saying "I love you" is not quite so deep I think. It doesn't really matter though, I'll wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's married.

My thought exactly. OP, this is a disaster in the making.

He will say it to keep the sex coming. It’s basically role play for a married guy.

Or he’s in love with this woman and not his wife. There’s no way to tell based on what is posted.

Yeah, but she did say he can't get out of the situation and she is waiting and hoping it will work out. Classic guy leading a woman on to get sex.

Ask me how I know? (Sorry, couldn't resist given the other thread!) But this is true in my case.

99.9% of the time that’s what it is. Even happy men cheat. They compartmentalize. They aren’t going to procreate and spend 30+ years with a woman they don’t love. They are different than women in that aspect.

[Anonymous]

I say “I love you” or “love you” to my husband and my adult children all the time and now to my grandchildren. It may sound the same but the meaning is a little different. When my grandchildren say it first I melt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's married.

My thought exactly. OP, this is a disaster in the making.

He will say it to keep the sex coming. It’s basically role play for a married guy.

Or he’s in love with this woman and not his wife. There’s no way to tell based on what is posted.

Yeah, but she did say he can't get out of the situation and she is waiting and hoping it will work out. Classic guy leading a woman on to get sex.

Ask me how I know? (Sorry, couldn't resist given the other thread!) But this is true in my case.

99.9% of the time that’s what it is. Even happy men cheat. They compartmentalize. They aren’t going to procreate and spend 30+ years with a woman they don’t love. They are different than women in that aspect.

There's no sex going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Saying "I love you" so many times a day, makes it more like "What's up?", just a polite expression, with not much meaning.

Say it once or twice a year and rest of the time, demonstrate it through actions.

It has lots of meaning to us, everyday or whatever. I also make sure to say it every time I talk to my adult kids. We aren't promised tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are big verbalizers, so saying "I love you" multiple times a day is normal for us. If I say "I'm in love with you" it's usually meant as a show of appreciation for something that he did that exemplifies my love for him or as a flirtation. It's a declaration of a big feeling, rather than showing affection. It's dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will offer my perspective as a man and I certainly do not speak for all men. If a woman tells she loves us there is no difference between her saying "I love you" vs "I am in love with you". We men don't analyze expressions of love the way woman do. We show love more through actions even if we don't tell you that we love you.

I am in love with you have more power to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he's married.

My thought exactly. OP, this is a disaster in the making.

He will say it to keep the sex coming. It’s basically role play for a married guy.

Or he’s in love with this woman and not his wife. There’s no way to tell based on what is posted.

Yeah, but she did say he can't get out of the situation and she is waiting and hoping it will work out. Classic guy leading a woman on to get sex.

Ask me how I know? (Sorry, couldn't resist given the other thread!) But this is true in my case.

99.9% of the time that’s what it is. Even happy men cheat. They compartmentalize. They aren’t going to procreate and spend 30+ years with a woman they don’t love. They are different than women in that aspect.

There's no sex going on.

So wrong. Most still have sex at home. Just like the phony Ilys—they lie about having no sex life at home too.