Purposely peeing in nighttime pull-ups during the night? WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:I would 100% leave it alone. Offer the pull ups and don’t stress/pressure about coming off them for a while. Don’t ask a bunch of questions and draw a lot of attention to it. Give it time. 5 is still young.

This.

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It’s not a big deal, we actually still regular tape-on diapers at bedtime because they seem to work better than the pull-up kind. When he gets a little older he will outgrow this behavior but for now just take it in stride.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, kind of as a silly aside--!

Is it weird that we generally let him come downstairs and eat breakfast still in his pull up? We don't do a big complicated breakfast by any stretch. But, usually he's good about taking his pull up off after breakfast.

Not a silly aside, likely part of the problem since you said he told grandma he pees in the morning. First thing when waking up should be going potty and taking off the pull up. Do you pee when you wake up? Why would it be different for a kid?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, kind of as a silly aside--!

Is it weird that we generally let him come downstairs and eat breakfast still in his pull up? We don't do a big complicated breakfast by any stretch. But, usually he's good about taking his pull up off after breakfast.

Not a silly aside, likely part of the problem since you said he told grandma he pees in the morning. First thing when waking up should be going potty and taking off the pull up. Do you pee when you wake up? Why would it be different for a kid?

Should have explained a bit more, my bad. But he's not wandering around the house in the morning in a pull up just peeing at will. Specifically this happens the moment he's waking up, and he's sort of half-awake. He knows he's supposed to get out of bed and go potty, but much of the time, he claims he doesn't have to go. Because he was already in the middle of going as he was waking up.

No clue if this is exactly what goes down, I'm just repeating what my mom relayed to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he is almost ready to be done with pullups. Recommend getting a bedwetting alarm just to speed the process along.

Hadn't heard of these before, but a quick Google makes me think this is something we should look into perhaps. Will give this a look, thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% leave it alone. Offer the pull ups and don’t stress/pressure about coming off them for a while. Don’t ask a bunch of questions and draw a lot of attention to it. Give it time. 5 is still young.

This.

Totally get that he's still on the younger side for this, so we're not at all super bothered by him still needing them at nighttime per se. My only slight worry just has to do specifically with the on purpose peeing, if that's a concern at all.

[Anonymous]

I would try the alarm without pull-ups. If he is peeing on purpose while awake, you’ll find out quickly with the alarm. It could be he’s peeing in the morning as he’s waking up but not fully awake yet. The alarm was moderately successful for my 7 year old but she was also older and more motivated to be done with bedwetting. Worth a try!

[Anonymous]

I’ve babysat several kids that have been in this situation and the bedwetting alarms can be very traumatic for young kids. At his age it is perfectly normal for him to still be having accidents at night and I would leave it be until he’s older and he says that he is ready to try something else.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve babysat several kids that have been in this situation and the bedwetting alarms can be very traumatic for young kids. At his age it is perfectly normal for him to still be having accidents at night and I would leave it be until he’s older and he says that he is ready to try something else.

Oh I totally understand.

He just started K, and is a great sleeper, so trust me we're not looking to mess that up anytime soon. I think I was misunderstanding what a bedwetting alarm would actually BE. (I figured it was just like a lowkey app or something like that, didn't realize it's an actual buzzing thing.

But, yeah. He's probably too young right at the moment for something that abrupt. I just wish there was some similar app for us to use as parents that would let US know when it's happening, without actually waking him up haha!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would 100% leave it alone. Offer the pull ups and don’t stress/pressure about coming off them for a while. Don’t ask a bunch of questions and draw a lot of attention to it. Give it time. 5 is still young.

This.

Totally get that he's still on the younger side for this, so we're not at all super bothered by him still needing them at nighttime per se. My only slight worry just has to do specifically with the on purpose peeing, if that's a concern at all.

Don’t get upset, he’s a little kid. Doesn’t sound like it’s hurting anything so just accept it for now. Kids do all kinds of things that might seem strange to you as an adult and as he gets bigger he will mature and this will all seem like a silly inconsequential thing.

[Anonymous]

If you want to get him out of pull ups, you may have to take him to the bathroom before you go to sleep, and go in and wake him right before he would get up and hustle him to the bathroom. But if that's not what you want to focus on at this point, you can wait and see if he gets better control on his own. I do think it will be harder for him to get out of bed to pee in the winter so if you aren't going to take a more active role, expect things won't improve for 6ish months.

[Anonymous]

We have the same situation. DS is 5, still in pull ups at night, and I suspect that he sometimes pees into the pull up as he’s waking up. More often than not, he stays dry.

We’re leaving it alone until he grows out of it.

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I Wouldn't see it as much of a problem, I used to do it frequently as a kid because my sister would take forever in the bathroom in the morning.

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Night time dryness is something they have to grow into - you can’t bribe them into it. It makes sense that he was wet at night when starting Kinder. My kids had accidents when they were super tired for a while too.

He may be aware when the peeing happens, but still not be fully in control. When they were almost but not quite ready to ditch night time pull-ups, my boys both peed just as they were waking up but still groggy. They knew what was happening when it was happening, but not far enough in advance to get up and go to the bathroom.

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Anonymous wrote:Night time dryness is something they have to grow into - you can’t bribe them into it. It makes sense that he was wet at night when starting Kinder. My kids had accidents when they were super tired for a while too.

He may be aware when the peeing happens, but still not be fully in control. When they were almost but not quite ready to ditch night time pull-ups, my boys both peed just as they were waking up but still groggy. They knew what was happening when it was happening, but not far enough in advance to get up and go to the bathroom.

OP here, you put into words what I've been (poorly) trying to explain.

He co-sleeps with us semi-regularly, so I can say with certainty that he's such a deep sleeper that I doubt he's quite at the point where he could independently stagger out of bed and manage to go to the bathroom unassisted, by then he'll have already peed.

What I'm more wondering, is do we hoist him over to the bathroom and try and plop him on the toilet in time? Or just call it good and let him pee in his pull-up?