Vocal Redshirt Mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t we have this exact same thread a week ago

Yes we did. OP is more awkward than the redshirted girl.

OP: either confront her and say “If your girl is so bored why don’t you have her skip a grade? Seems like maybe redshirting was a mistake in her case” or shut up about this and stop talking to this woman. Guess what? There are many other redshirted kids in your daughter’s year who will be applying to college at the same time and competing for spots. Accept and internalize this injustice now before you let it consume you forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Gosh, have you ever thought that your daughter wouldn't be bored now if you had sent her to school on time? Such a shame she had to waste a year."


But I'm mean.

Op here. Some version of this is on the tip of my tongue.

I could even understand if she backed off of her “redshirt your kid or they are doomed” stance once she realized maybe redshirting her kid was part of the problem, but she hasn’t.

Don’t do it. Be the bigger person. Just don’t engage in conversation about it. If she is above average smart and bored in class, she likely would be bored in the next grade as well. It might not have anything to do with redshirting. Just leave it alone

[Anonymous]

Op here. I’m sorry, I didn’t see the other thread. I found it though and I’ll read through those responses too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Gosh, have you ever thought that your daughter wouldn't be bored now if you had sent her to school on time? Such a shame she had to waste a year."


But I'm mean.

+1. This or a version of this. Heh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd stop talking to someone who is that annoying.

Same. But first I’d call her out on it. I don’t understand why you didn’t the first time she complained her kid was bored in class?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the need to confront or call out someone in this situation. Just stop hanging out with her.

People need to chill.

[Anonymous]

Instead of “the extra year did her no favors” why wouldn’t you assume that the extra year DID help and she might have been even MORE awkward if she had gone on time?

Sounds like maybe mom and daughter both have trouble with social cues. I’m with the PP and think they may both be on the spectrum (and I come from a neurodiverse family)

[Anonymous]

Op, you have to let this stop bothering you. Many parents attempt to justify their decisions by talking with other parents. It does not sound like she is comparing her daughter with yours (who sounds like she’s doing great so you have no worries at the moment).

Try to redirect the conversation to a neutral topic. If that doesn’t work, wrap up the conversation quickly. Saying something snarky isn’t going to help.

[Anonymous]

I’d want to say something snarky, but the best thing would be to redirect the conversation. If that doesn’t work, excuse yourself and don’t hang out with this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of “the extra year did her no favors” why wouldn’t you assume that the extra year DID help and she might have been even MORE awkward if she had gone on time?

Sounds like maybe mom and daughter both have trouble with social cues. I’m with the PP and think they may both be on the spectrum (and I come from a neurodiverse family)

Please stop armchair diagnosis of disabilities. It is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of “the extra year did her no favors” why wouldn’t you assume that the extra year DID help and she might have been even MORE awkward if she had gone on time?

Sounds like maybe mom and daughter both have trouble with social cues. I’m with the PP and think they may both be on the spectrum (and I come from a neurodiverse family)

Please stop armchair diagnosis of disabilities. It is wrong.

It’s even more wrong when it’s about kids. But OP got a pass for saying the kid was awkward and even an extra year was of no help. OP sucks so who cares about her redshirting beef?

[Anonymous]

OP has low self esteem FACTS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the need to confront or call out someone in this situation. Just stop hanging out with her.

People need to chill.

Op here. We aren’t great friends or anything but I’m kind of forced to due to proximity and school things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of “the extra year did her no favors” why wouldn’t you assume that the extra year DID help and she might have been even MORE awkward if she had gone on time?

Sounds like maybe mom and daughter both have trouble with social cues. I’m with the PP and think they may both be on the spectrum (and I come from a neurodiverse family)

Op here. Yeah I really have no idea. The mom is a massive oversharer so I’m assuming she would’ve mentioned that along the way? Not really my business anyhow. I just get irritated with her yammering on about how redshirting is the best when every kid is different and also it seems to not have even worked out great for her own kid.

[Anonymous]

hmm maybe the class just isn't a good fit for her talents, maybe she would be less bored with her age mates. Have you explored having her go up a grade?