Why do I always make an ass out of myself?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just bought something at the airport market and the cashier said "have a good flight" and I said "you, too!"

These things happen. Just laugh about it.

I'm sure that happens multiple times a day to them. Like when a waiter delivers the food and says "Enjoy your meal" and you say "Thanks, you too!" They've heard it before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you weren't paying attention.

This is how I read it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK since you clarified that she said "sorry to bother you" --

As a meeting facilitator some days all I have are quiet people with cameras off. Let me tell you, it's annoying. It does feel like you're not paying attention and that you're not participating.

I don't know if this is the case here, but it's like being a cheerleader at a pep rally you don't care about, don't want to be at, and nobody GAF but you have no choice.

So all you quiet people out there, just like you need to make an effort to practice a little small talk with a cashier, you need to challenge yourselves to participate, just one tiny thing a meeting.

Sounds like you need to do a better job running meetings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you weren't paying attention.

This is how I read it.

I was paying attention which is why I was so confused. I thought there was agreement on the last scenario based on what was just said, and that time was up because many people have to transition to another meeting immediately. It took me by surprise I'd be asked this and not about the next meeting since that's always what happens at the very end of this one.

[Anonymous]

When COVID first started and we switched to zoom meetings, I had no idea my boss could see me. Since I could only see my boss, I thought she only saw herself, too.

I used to drink booze, pick my nose and flick it, get up, talk to other people, etc. Boss never said anything although I was let go a few months later.

A few months back, my H’s company got a new CEO and he address the 1000+ employees over a Zoom. After about 20 minutes someone who THOUGHT they were muted said “oh will you please shut TF up and let us get back to work”. Didn’t realize that they weren’t muted. And since it’s Zoom, it switched to their face and everyone knew exactly who it was.

It happens. We move on. Probability is that nobody else wanted to be there or were paying attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK since you clarified that she said "sorry to bother you" --

As a meeting facilitator some days all I have are quiet people with cameras off. Let me tell you, it's annoying. It does feel like you're not paying attention and that you're not participating.

I don't know if this is the case here, but it's like being a cheerleader at a pep rally you don't care about, don't want to be at, and nobody GAF but you have no choice.

So all you quiet people out there, just like you need to make an effort to practice a little small talk with a cashier, you need to challenge yourselves to participate, just one tiny thing a meeting.

Sounds like you need to do a better job running meetings.

It sounds like OP was in a similar meeting and the lead just starting calling on people who never talk. Happens. OP did they make you all turn your cameras on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When COVID first started and we switched to zoom meetings, I had no idea my boss could see me. Since I could only see my boss, I thought she only saw herself, too.

I used to drink booze, pick my nose and flick it, get up, talk to other people, etc. Boss never said anything although I was let go a few months later.

A few months back, my H’s company got a new CEO and he address the 1000+ employees over a Zoom. After about 20 minutes someone who THOUGHT they were muted said “oh will you please shut TF up and let us get back to work”. Didn’t realize that they weren’t muted. And since it’s Zoom, it switched to their face and everyone knew exactly who it was.

It happens. We move on. Probability is that nobody else wanted to be there or were paying attention.

Don't believe it. Meetings with 1000+ people you are automatically muted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just bought something at the airport market and the cashier said "have a good flight" and I said "you, too!"

These things happen. Just laugh about it.

I'm sure that happens multiple times a day to them. Like when a waiter delivers the food and says "Enjoy your meal" and you say "Thanks, you too!" They've heard it before.

I'm sure it does, but I still feel like an idiot. I don't go hit myself in the head or cry about it in the corner or anything. I just roll my eyes at myself and go on with my day. My point to OP was I think she probably feels a lot worse about what happened than she should.

Once I tripped walking across the intersection by my condo going to the metro. I was MORTIFIED, which is ridiculous because I had sat at that intersection a million times before with metro traffic coming and going and couldn't have cared less what a pedestrian was doing. And had someone tripped I would have felt bad, not laughed at them. So sometimes even though logic tells you that something isn't a big deal it can still feel like one. Maybe that's anxiety speaking, I don't know. I'm not a generally anxious person but maybe I am more than I realize.