Should we tell the truth about why we can’t do play dates anymore?

[Anonymous]

I'd be direct and tell the mom that the kids just don't seem to play well together. Don't put all the blame on the other child.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Do not tell them why unless you want the friendship to end. Just be "busy."

[Anonymous]

All the people I know that were like this in elementary have no issue with their kids taking weed and alcohol in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be direct and tell the mom that the kids just don't seem to play well together. Don't put all the blame on the other child.

If you can do it without even implying you any blame on the other child, the problem then the approach seems good. But it’s too loaded and judgy to be honest about, especially with a friend.

[Anonymous]

"It doesn't work for us."
No explanation/specifics needed. Be nice and be open to having an ordinary relationship with the Mother, otherwise. They can wonder, that's ok.

[Anonymous]

pp again and I like this too, "the kids just don't seem to play well together." Do not get forced into further clarification.

[Anonymous]

I would not continue to be "busy" forever.
Be more authentic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:pp again and I like this too, "the kids just don't seem to play well together." Do not get forced into further clarification.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be direct and tell the mom that the kids just don't seem to play well together. Don't put all the blame on the other child.

This! I've used it, although my kid was the one causing problems.

[Anonymous]

Tell them your kid may have lice.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. I know a mom who always thinks her daughter is being wronged by the daughter’s best friend, but when I’ve watched the interactions, her daughter is 50 percent at fault. I’d do some hard thinking about whether the other kid is really 100 percent of the problem before I ever said anything to the other mom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you are putting the teachers in an awkward spot asking them to keep two kids apart when they are friends. What if other kid goes home and says Miss Mary says I am not allowed to play with Larlo any more?

The teacher is just going to ignore request. She may not intentionally group them together for a project, but she is certainly not going to be policing them to make sure there is zero interacting in class or on the playground

+1 Imagine if 3 other parents asked this of the teacher. This is not a reasonable request.

[Anonymous]

So your child is perfect and the other child "makes" your child behave poorly? How about teaching your child how to act even when tempted to act out by copying a peer? It's mean to not allow your child to play with a child that's his good friend. Learn how to parent better and stop blaming other kids for your kids crappy behavior.

[Anonymous]

They know; I mean, surely they know? If they know, why pour salt onto the wound?
Do you get the impression that they think they child is an angel?

[Anonymous]

Info can't raise a child to make their own good decisions about their behavior, you'll have a drug addict by the end of high school. You've been blessed with mirror into your deficient parenting.