Extreme anxiety during drivers test at DMV

[Anonymous]

Go pick up random bums and take them to get food. Get her used to having random old men in the car with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is aa great driver. But she has now gotten so nervous at the test, twice, that she has bumped into cones on the way out of the parallel parking. I'm not sure how to get her to chill. She is a really good driver. Does anyone have experience with the private testers?

Why are you pushing her to drive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you knew her you’d know she has more resilience than everyone on this board. I don’t need anyone telling me I’m in denial or that I’m working around it for her. I’m frustrated for her and venting on a special needs board about my DD who is a better driver than most of the teens I see running stop signs in my neighborhood. She just happens to possibly get nervous around old, strange men in her car, a reaction I happen to think is not something that makes her a bad driver. This has not been helpful, not even as a place to vent. I’ll go elsewhere.

She clearly doesn't have more resilience than everyone on this board. I have over a dozen learning disabilities, got left back in HS and barely graduated, and even I passed my written test and driving test the first time each. I had an older, strange lady in my car for my driving test, but you know what? Every kid approaching their road test KNOWS that's how it works - a stranger from the DMV spends their days hopping into cars with brand new wannabe drivers. SHE IS NOT READY if she can't deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Can you get one of the driving schools, like I drive smart (former police officers), to work with her? Having a stranger in the car during practice might help.

[Anonymous]

You win a gold medal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you knew her you’d know she has more resilience than everyone on this board. I don’t need anyone telling me I’m in denial or that I’m working around it for her. I’m frustrated for her and venting on a special needs board about my DD who is a better driver than most of the teens I see running stop signs in my neighborhood. She just happens to possibly get nervous around old, strange men in her car, a reaction I happen to think is not something that makes her a bad driver. This has not been helpful, not even as a place to vent. I’ll go elsewhere.

She clearly doesn't have more resilience than everyone on this board. I have over a dozen learning disabilities, got left back in HS and barely graduated, and even I passed my written test and driving test the first time each. I had an older, strange lady in my car for my driving test, but you know what? Every kid approaching their road test KNOWS that's how it works - a stranger from the DMV spends their days hopping into cars with brand new wannabe drivers. SHE IS NOT READY if she can't deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you get one of the driving schools, like I drive smart (former police officers), to work with her? Having a stranger in the car during practice might help.

Now that’s a helpful
Response. Thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You win a gold medal.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you knew her you’d know she has more resilience than everyone on this board. I don’t need anyone telling me I’m in denial or that I’m working around it for her. I’m frustrated for her and venting on a special needs board about my DD who is a better driver than most of the teens I see running stop signs in my neighborhood. She just happens to possibly get nervous around old, strange men in her car, a reaction I happen to think is not something that makes her a bad driver. This has not been helpful, not even as a place to vent. I’ll go elsewhere.

She clearly doesn't have more resilience than everyone on this board. I have over a dozen learning disabilities, got left back in HS and barely graduated, and even I passed my written test and driving test the first time each. I had an older, strange lady in my car for my driving test, but you know what? Every kid approaching their road test KNOWS that's how it works - a stranger from the DMV spends their days hopping into cars with brand new wannabe drivers. SHE IS NOT READY if she can't deal with it.

You win the douche bag participation award.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is aa great driver. But she has now gotten so nervous at the test, twice, that she has bumped into cones on the way out of the parallel parking. I'm not sure how to get her to chill. She is a really good driver. Does anyone have experience with the private testers?

Why are you pushing her to drive?

I’m pushing her? How? She’s a great driver and wants to drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can you get one of the driving schools, like I drive smart (former police officers), to work with her? Having a stranger in the car during practice might help.

Now that’s a helpful
Response. Thank you

Bums are free

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is aa great driver. But she has now gotten so nervous at the test, twice, that she has bumped into cones on the way out of the parallel parking. I'm not sure how to get her to chill. She is a really good driver. Does anyone have experience with the private testers?

Why are you pushing her to drive?

I’m pushing her? How? She’s a great driver and wants to drive.

What’s the rush?

[Anonymous]

This board used to be nice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board used to be nice

Nobody has been anything but nice to you, you just don’t like their answers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board used to be nice

Again, what’s the rush?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This board used to be nice

To be fair, there's nothing in the title or the OP that says the child has a disability. So anyone who sees this from recent topics would have no idea that she's not totally typical. Even the OP's follow ups don't say that she has a disability -- getting nervous in a driver's test is not a disability.

[Anonymous]

You could call and try to request a female tester. But yes, if she can't handle that kind of anxiety then she's not ready.