Is this alcoholism or just tacky? At restaurant, husband will

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband says he learned this from a work colleague. Lately when we are seated and order drinks and apps, he will order our drinks, apps, and also request that a second round be brought out with the apps. He says he’s making it easier on the server. But it just seems like he wants to quickly suck down his first cocktail and have it swooped away and a fresh one arrives with apps ten or so minutes after sitting at the restaurant. If nothing else it feels a bit tacky to essentially double order booze right when we’re seated?

Neither but you sound like you’re tightly wound. I used to work in food service. I’m built to order efficiently. It’s why my kid is halfway through his meal when I order mine.

If you're ordering efficiently why does it take you that long? I am really confused how not even ordering until your kid has had time to order their food, and wait for it to come, and eat half of it, is efficient.

[Anonymous]

I do this too because if they bring out a drink when I'm eating my entree or even worse dessert i won't be able to metabolize the alcohol before i drive and i have to uber home

[Anonymous]

The healthier thing to do when drinking is to drink a glass of water between each alcoholic drink, and space them out over time/food as much as possible. It sounds like your husband is thinking about what he'll drink each time he goes out to eat before heading out. That would be problematic in my eyes. But we drink very little and often eat out without having any alcohol at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband says he learned this from a work colleague. Lately when we are seated and order drinks and apps, he will order our drinks, apps, and also request that a second round be brought out with the apps. He says he’s making it easier on the server. But it just seems like he wants to quickly suck down his first cocktail and have it swooped away and a fresh one arrives with apps ten or so minutes after sitting at the restaurant. If nothing else it feels a bit tacky to essentially double order booze right when we’re seated?

It makes him preoccupied with alcohol for sure.

[Anonymous]

This forum is so American. If you drink, you must be an alkie. I mean, I saw a post where people were convinced a dad was a brunk because he drank a 12 pack of light beer every weekend. Soda is literally worse for you.

[Anonymous]

I mean how much do you go out to eat that this is considered a problem for you? I know my limit is two drinks (I’m a female) and I do what your husband does, order a head of time. The drinks can come out crazy late and I rather eat and drink.

[Anonymous]

Wow that’s genius. I love efficiency, and I am definitely going to consider doing this next time I’m out.

[Anonymous]

He sounds smart. I like his style. I hate waiting to get a second drink. Some servers just are not on the ball.

[Anonymous]

OK replace two drinks with a bottle of wine. Now he's elegant.

same diff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband says he learned this from a work colleague. Lately when we are seated and order drinks and apps, he will order our drinks, apps, and also request that a second round be brought out with the apps. He says he’s making it easier on the server. But it just seems like he wants to quickly suck down his first cocktail and have it swooped away and a fresh one arrives with apps ten or so minutes after sitting at the restaurant. If nothing else it feels a bit tacky to essentially double order booze right when we’re seated?

Neither but you sound like you’re tightly wound. I used to work in food service. I’m built to order efficiently. It’s why my kid is halfway through his meal when I order mine.

If you're ordering efficiently why does it take you that long? I am really confused how not even ordering until your kid has had time to order their food, and wait for it to come, and eat half of it, is efficient.

DP, but I was thinking maybe the kid is a super duper slow eater? So pp waits until they are half done, and then by the time they order, make the food, bring the food and she eats it they somehow finish around the same time? I dunno, seems easier to just pack it as leftovers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you ready for a second one then?

Yes because it's Hawaii and service is slow and aloha-y but not watchful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we please, for the love of God, stop using the word "tacky" for everything that we personally don't like?

Also, talk to your husband. No one else cares.

THANK YOU.

I've never heard people use the word tacky in my real life -- only on DCUM (again and again and again).

I get that it refers to something you think is on poor taste and for which you think others would judge you. But do you care what others think in this case? Are you afraid the waiter is judging your husband you by extension?

It just seems like something a rich WASPY grandmother would say when she's really just wanting to be judgmental ans gossipy.

[Anonymous]

Don't think you know the definition of alcoholism or even tacky for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I order different courses with different wines, is that much different from what this guy is doing? Or am I also committing a faux pas?

[Anonymous]

DH always does this at weddings or other venues where it is a pain to order drinks. I see no issue with what your DH is doing.