If your daughter (aged 20 something )is in a relationship

[Anonymous]

A lot depends on culture as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

Typically as people get to know each other better, interactions organically become less formal. Not sure why their sex life has anything to do with how well someone knows someone else’s parents.

I mention sex life because the PP seemed to be only willing to allow a daughter’s boyfriend to address her less formally when there is some gesture towards “legitimizing” the relationship, which is preposterous. People can be in relationships for 10 years without cohabiting or marrying, and they are still serious relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

I hate people like this. What happened to addressing people the way they prefer to be called? If someone wants Ms./Mrs. K then I call 'em that. If they want Patty, I call them that. I don't insist on addressing people in the way I prefer to call them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

So..... when you get married, you want Mrs. K to also call you Mrs. K? That's so weird.

[Anonymous]

I did call my in-laws Mr/Mrs LastName before getting married. Now it's so weird to me that I did that (it's been 15 years).

I have attempted to call adults in my kid's lives Ms/Mr FirstName. Often because I don't know their last name! It's been unevenly applied though, so some people have the title and some don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I get called by our first names by our two college-age DDs' significant others. This seems to be fairly standard practice for Gen X parents/ Gen Z kids.

That’s interesting to me. We are older GenX and our kids’ friends and significant others call everyone’s parents Mr or Mrs/Ms X

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

So..... when you get married, you want Mrs. K to also call you Mrs. K? That's so weird.

I'm replacing her, so, yes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

So..... when you get married, you want Mrs. K to also call you Mrs. K? That's so weird.

I'm replacing her, so, yes.

You're REPLACING HER? wtaf, you are not replacing her, she still exists, and you are not his mother! LOL!!!!

[Anonymous]

I don't see no reason for turning it into an issue. As long as people are polite and kind to parents of their significant others and vice versa, its all good. A smart couple who would check with each other as everyone knows their parents the best.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

So..... when you get married, you want Mrs. K to also call you Mrs. K? That's so weird.

I'm replacing her, so, yes.

You are marrying her husband? That's a plot twist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

So..... when you get married, you want Mrs. K to also call you Mrs. K? That's so weird.

I didn’t take my husband’s name, if you can wrap your tiny mind around that concept.

[Anonymous]

They try not to have to address you by any name! It's not disrespect, it's just awkward. That's what I did for the longest time, unmarried and then eventually married! It settles on first names, eventually, once married. I think Mrs/Mr ____ is probably what would be said, prior to marriage. By default.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where I live, in Realityville, most people call each other by their first names.

Interesting, in our section of Realityville, people use Mr or Mrs X until it’s a serious relationship. Moving in together, engaged, etc.

This is so weird to me. Upon their moving in, do you say “David, you may now call me Perdita” with a gracious nod of the head and wave of the hand? You’re not the freaking Dowager Duchess. And he’s slipping it to her no matter what he calls you.

You say it like sex is something dirty and expecting basic courtesy from a child's significant other is presumptuous.

If my MiL had insisted on being called Mrs. K, I would have insisted her addressing me as “Ms. P.” Since apparently that’s basic courtesy, it extends both ways, no?

So..... when you get married, you want Mrs. K to also call you Mrs. K? That's so weird.

I didn’t take my husband’s name, if you can wrap your tiny mind around that concept.

Oh okay, Ma'am

[Anonymous]

Why is this only for daughters? I have sons and their girlfriends call me Ms. Larla. I always did the same when I was dating. Nobody ever requested it, I’m Black and I think it’s just what we do in the black community for our elders. Hell, I’m 54 and I call my 75 year old neighbor Ms. Larla. A few months ago a young couple moved in the neighborhood, probably mid-20s and they call me Ms. Larla.