If you like your husband, what are you doing for Father’s Day?

[Anonymous]

The answer is bourbon.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what, if anything, my wife might have planned. But my favorite Father's Days have consisted of a couple of low-impact gifts (like a book or a t-shirt), some stuff for me to grill, and - if we get some time to ourselves - sex that's at least a notch above the normal week-to-week routine.

[Anonymous]

Some friends having a father's day dinner together. Morning is for family breakfast, small gifts and pampering of person of the day.

[Anonymous]

Don't ever do tit for tat if you want a happy family. Its your chance to appreciate him and show value in being a good father and a good husband.

[Anonymous]

I think he's going to take DD to see Inside Out 2 and we'll have a big tomahawk steak and scallops for dinner. I got him some Oofos as a present from DD.

[Anonymous]

DH’s choices - family bike ride, some downtime to do whatever for a few hours, and then apps/dinner/drinks on the patio at home

[Anonymous]

Designed a card for him on Shutterfly, picking out little gifts with kids (favorite coffee and chocolate, a gift card), making his favorite brownies and breakfast. Sex if he wants. He’s a great dad and a wonderful husband!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure what, if anything, my wife might have planned. But my favorite Father's Days have consisted of a couple of low-impact gifts (like a book or a t-shirt), some stuff for me to grill, and - if we get some time to ourselves - sex that's at least a notch above the normal week-to-week routine.

That sounds pretty nice

[Anonymous]

We don’t do much for either. He reminded our college kids to call/send me cards and I chose where went to brunch. I picked up cards for the kids and I to fill out for him because I was buying a card for my Dad and will ask him if he has any preferences for what we do Sunday. I used to expend more energy but it isn’t a day that really matters to him so I dialed back, not to punish him but because my energy is finite.

[Anonymous]

DD's softball tournament.

And there's literally no other place he'd rather be

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:lol he's the father of your kids whether or not you like him.

And no, this should not be a tit-for-tat situation "he just phoned it in on Mother's Day, I'm not going to exert myself for Father's Day." Be better than that.

Why? Honest question. If fathers can not "be better" than phoning it in, than why should women do more? I think matching energy is a great way to balance things. If he wants a big deal on Father's day, the best way to get it is to make a big deal on mother's day. If no one cares, great (that's my marriage). But there's no real reason it should be lopsided either.

Such a weird mentality. For starters, neither of you are each other's parent. And then, bean counting kills marriages.

Eh, I don't agree. I do think taking stock of the BALANCE in your marriage is ok. If one person has all the beans and then is also saying "bean counting kills marriage!" that isn't a good marriage because one of the people in that marriage sucks.

What is the goal? Is it to have balance? Or is it to be happily married forever? Not saying one is better than another but you can't count slights if you want a marriage to work. It has to roll off your back or say something at the time -- never later. Why did he phone it in? Parent dying? Work? You will have those things too. So no you don't compare. Father's day is way easier anyway -- most people don't care. Buy steaks and you are done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The answer is bourbon.

No. You want father of your children to be healthy and not develop addictions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD's softball tournament.

And there's literally no other place he'd rather be

yup. Dad here and feel the same way.

A week before he died my father told me that being my father and watching me grow up was the joy of his life. I did not fully appreciate what this meant until my kids got older.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The answer is bourbon.

No. You want father of your children to be healthy and not develop addictions.

Why did you go there? People tend to do that on DCUM. What about giving someone bourbon means they will have an addiction? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Got him some personalized golf balls and going to brunch at St. Anselm’s.