How much say parents should've in matters of marriage

[Anonymous]

Did you offer to pay for law school because you simply wanted to help your adult child not be in debt and start off life in a strong financial position? Or because you wanted to ensure adherence to your beliefs? This is not meant to be rude. This is a serious question. Really ask yourself why and be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids with well off parents keep those cash apron strings into their 40s. Tuition, grad school, house, kids private school....
Kids whose parents send them off with a good luck are emotionally more self sufficient.

I have no idea what you are saying.

[Anonymous]

None. What is the objection? This is a great time to get married. Is it the person? On the money front why would this change? And for people saying loans —- no one should get education loans if it can in any way be avoided. Even. T14 law school and big law should be avoided if loans are needed.

[Anonymous]

Sounds controlling. Whether you pay for law school or not should be about whether you can afford it and whether you value them having more freedom to make more choices.

[Anonymous]

Parents made it clear that once we were married the bills (including remaining schooling) were on us as a married couple. Thus, it made a whole lot more sense to wait until after graduation.

[Anonymous]

Not much say.

At most you can ask some being questions and hope they ponder them later.

If they end up unhappy and divorced, oh well.

[Anonymous]

It would be counterproductive to stop supporting them or their education and a vindictive attempt to ruin their lives. If their SO can support themselves or their parents can help then there is no issue.

So many people doing MBA, law, medicine and PhD are married. Now undergrad is a different story but once above 21 and with a undergrad degree to fall on, it should be completely couple's decision.

[Anonymous]

No Monster-In-Law, you're being ridiculous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents made it clear that once we were married the bills (including remaining schooling) were on us as a married couple. Thus, it made a whole lot more sense to wait until after graduation.

If parents are going to pay for grad school anyway, what difference does it make if you're married?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents made it clear that once we were married the bills (including remaining schooling) were on us as a married couple. Thus, it made a whole lot more sense to wait until after graduation.

If parents are going to pay for grad school anyway, what difference does it make if you're married?!

Loss of control.

[Anonymous]

Zero point zero

[Anonymous]

At that age you can provide advice and counsel if asked. Other than that, none.

[Anonymous]

None.

If you as a parent want to use money to control your adult child and who they marry, you are a shitty parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If parents are paying for law school, do they get a say in when to get engaged?

They can say all they want, but if the son or daughter chooses not to listen, that's their prerogative.

I'm not Indian, but I admire their take that a marriage is a blending of two families and that previous generations should have some (but not ultimate) influence.

[Anonymous]

Are you American?

That is a very odd question.

And the person asking it sounds very controlling.

Is it a man, who uses money to control his wife the same way?????????????