Grad parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No gifts for friends at HS grad party. It would essentially be passing the same Amazon gift card back and forth anyways.

Kids just show up.

We give to nieces/nephews and very close neighbor (grew up with them) but nobody else. It’s not the norm in our circle where HS graduation is just expected- not first Gen big deal thing.

HS graduation is expected, but it's a huge rite of passage. It's much harder to get a crowd together for college graduation, and extended family is that much older.

[Anonymous]

OP. This is a high school senior who will be attending over 15 HS graduation parties. Hence the question. $10 cash and a "Happy graduation. Good luck with your future" card OK? Personally not a fan of gift cards. Parents are not invited to any of these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. This is a high school senior who will be attending over 15 HS graduation parties. Hence the question. $10 cash and a "Happy graduation. Good luck with your future" card OK? Personally not a fan of gift cards. Parents are not invited to any of these.

Congratulations and as the parent of a HS graduate last year, I wouldn’t expect you to bring anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. This is a high school senior who will be attending over 15 HS graduation parties. Hence the question. $10 cash and a "Happy graduation. Good luck with your future" card OK? Personally not a fan of gift cards. Parents are not invited to any of these.

Congratulations and as the parent of a HS graduate last year, I wouldn’t expect you to bring anything.

Thanks! Further confusing the issue.. One of the invites says "No gifts please" implying that the others expect (or at least don't mind) gifts (maybe?).

[Anonymous]

$20 cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$20 cash.

Great Uncle Fred’s answer to everything.

[Anonymous]

No gifts. They all just graduated.

If parents are going- then yes- bring a gift.

But, if just the kids are meeting at these open house type grad parties—no gifts. They don’t do gifts in my son’s group for these.

We aren’t doing a party. Just a family/with grandparents/aunt/cousin lunch out after. Cake.

[Anonymous]

of course you bring a gift. For those that say it’s giving one gift from one person to one gift to another… That’s what you do when you’re invited to someone’s party. Who would go to a grad party and not bring a gift?

[Anonymous]

We do $20 for friends and $40
For closer friends. $100 for family friends

[Anonymous]

Is there alcohol?

[Anonymous]

Seems strange to give a classmate $ for doing the sane thing you just did.

Teens don’t give each other gifts at out HS for graduation- party or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems strange to give a classmate $ for doing the sane thing you just did.

Teens don’t give each other gifts at out HS for graduation- party or not.

This is not true. Teens absolutely give gifts at HS grad parties. And… by your reasoning, your kids would never give another child a bday gift. Your kids had annual birthdays- when they went to friends’ bday parties of all ages over the years, did they bring gifts?

[Anonymous]

Um, my current junior is invited and gives gifts. The kids invited aren't just seniors, they're club and hs sports friends, work friends etc.

My junior is going to like 15. She'll give a $20 card, if we go as a family it is more.

She went to parties as a sophomore and freshman and gave gifts. Her friends do too.

[Anonymous]

So OP, as you can tell from the responses, some people see these parties as gifting occasions from everyone. While others think expecting gifts from peers in this instance is tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So OP, as you can tell from the responses, some people see these parties as gifting occasions from everyone. While others think expecting gifts from peers in this instance is tacky.

Guess we see where you stand….

No, the choices aren’t as you laid them out. The choices are some believe gifts should be given and some don’t. Who said anything about expecting gifts and it being tacky? This is whether gifts should be given.

PS they should

PPS it is the grad announcements that are tacky!