Parents who don’t let their kids do sleepovers but send them to sleepaway camps: what’s your rationale?

[Anonymous]

Background checks, personal recommendations

[Anonymous]

It's all about what is convenient for the parents.

[Anonymous]

We allow sleepovers at a limited number of friends’ houses and it’s more for a birthday party, etc. than a regular thing.

Sleepaway camp is a hard no. The extended duration and inability to contact parents gives way too much opportunity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Staff at the camp is background checked.

Many of the people in this area are 'background checked' quite extensively, moreso than camp staff.

So? I’m not a fed so that means nothing to me.
A creepy husband or failure to launch brother walking around in their tighty whiteys is more likely at a sleepover than at a vetted summer camp.

No such thing as a failure to launch brother. It’s a brother who isn’t living independently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Background checks, personal recommendations

Sorry but background checks and references are worthless. Counselors are young, usually in their early 20s, and if they’re predators it’s highly unlikely they have any sort of record yet. It takes a long time for victims to come forward which is why so many abuse cases come to light when the predators are elderly or dead.

You’re not even meeting these people who will have complete control of your kids for a week plus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I let my kids do both, but I hate sleepovers and understand why some parents won’t allow them. They’re just disruptive whether they’re at your home or someone else’s. Kids are tired and grumpy the next day and it affects the whole weekend. Sleepaway camp is a total experience, and it can benefit both kid and parents.

100% this!!

[Anonymous]

My kid did not want to go over to a friend's house for a sleepover, because the friend is obsessed with sex, body explorations, etc. I told the parent that we aren't allowing the sleepers, although it's not exactly true. Yes, my kid is going to the sleep-away camp, where they are not "a guest" and feel like they have to be polite.

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm going to send them to college and that's basically a giant sleepaway camp...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid did not want to go over to a friend's house for a sleepover, because the friend is obsessed with sex, body explorations, etc. I told the parent that we aren't allowing the sleepers, although it's not exactly true. Yes, my kid is going to the sleep-away camp, where they are not "a guest" and feel like they have to be polite.

So you assume they will not have a body/sex obsessed cabin mate or counselor - or worse? And guess what, if they do, they can’t even contact you to get them out of there. Ignorance is bliss I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I'm going to send them to college and that's basically a giant sleepaway camp...

College is a totally different story! By that time, they are 18 or 19. We are discussing much younger kids here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I'm going to send them to college and that's basically a giant sleepaway camp...

You’re right, sending an 18 year old to college is exactly the same as sending a 10 year old away with no means of contacting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid did not want to go over to a friend's house for a sleepover, because the friend is obsessed with sex, body explorations, etc. I told the parent that we aren't allowing the sleepers, although it's not exactly true. Yes, my kid is going to the sleep-away camp, where they are not "a guest" and feel like they have to be polite.

So you assume they will not have a body/sex obsessed cabin mate or counselor - or worse? And guess what, if they do, they can’t even contact you to get them out of there. Ignorance is bliss I guess.

I can’t believe how many people live their lives worried about molestation.

[Anonymous]

You are living in denial, PP. This is very common. Send your kids away for weeks and months on end. If it happened to your child, this stays with them forever. This affects every inch of their waking life. Ask me how I know.

No, most of us don’t spend our lives worried about it because we aren’t sending them off at 7 years old with a bunch of random adults, many of whom seek out this exact situation. The worst part is that most parents I know that send their kids away hate having these discussions and don’t even talk their kids about the actual risks. Those of us that are ‘depriving’ our kids of this experience are honest about sex and all of the things. You want to paint us as crazed and sheltered but it couldn’t be further from the truth.

[Anonymous]

Safety in numbers and background checks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid did not want to go over to a friend's house for a sleepover, because the friend is obsessed with sex, body explorations, etc. I told the parent that we aren't allowing the sleepers, although it's not exactly true. Yes, my kid is going to the sleep-away camp, where they are not "a guest" and feel like they have to be polite.

So you assume they will not have a body/sex obsessed cabin mate or counselor - or worse? And guess what, if they do, they can’t even contact you to get them out of there. Ignorance is bliss I guess.

I can’t believe how many people live their lives worried about molestation.

I think you dont have a grasp on the sheer number of people who are molested, raped, sexually assaulted, etc.

Children are much easier to groom versus adults. Although grooming the parents is also a part of their process.