I want to be with my girl friends way more than I want to be with my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do feel like there’s some sexual tension there… But maybe I’m imagining things.

I would say I’m attracted to her, and she gives me a lot of compliments.

Sounds like there is something going on.

I have a couple of very close girlfriends- like, we know each other better than our (male) spouses do. We get each other, support each other, joke about living together in old age. But there is no sexual tension, it is very much like a sister relationship.

This sounds a little different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No it’s not. I love my female friends but I’ve never been attracted to any of them. I am however, attracted to my husband and enjoy sex with him.

Are you sure you’re not gay or bi? It sounds like it. Your poor husband.

No, I guess I’m not sure? But I don’t want to have sex with her, really.

[Anonymous]

I think you’ve finally found a true best friend. This is what it feels like. Adrenaline goes up when you hang out because it’s such a great fit and such a great feeling. I get it! I had that too. Unfortunately my friend pulled away from me and we are still connected, but she has other closer friends. I hope you and your BFF stay strong forever!!

[Anonymous]

I don’t get why in every post like this DCUM assumes your gay or some attraction sexually, why can’t people just be friends, and good friends. There are old or new souls all the time that connect, it is what it means to be human. Enjoy your time with your new friend, build on it and form a deep connection. It doesn’t have to be solely with your husband. A spouse/lover /partner doesn’t gate keep your relationships but helps you improve upon them and be a better person.
The quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:You use words that are typically used when people are in love with someone.

Just saying, OP. And no, I have never felt this. Not that I don't need time with my friends! But I do not describe them that way.

I've been on DCUM for 15 years, I have lots of friends in real life. NO ONE has ever described a "friend" in quite that way.

Draw your own conclusions.

You clearly only have many surface level friends. *hugs* I hope you experience what it is like to have few true friends on day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married woman.

In the last year I’ve made friends with this wonderful friend (woman) and I find myself so attracted to her. To her energy and vibe and beauty…

I can’t say I want to have sex with her at all but that I’m just so attracted to her energy.
I want to be with her all the time… way more than I want to be with my husband. she’s fun, we can talk for hours, and she makes me laugh harder than anyone I’ve known.

Is this just life as a married woman with girl friends???

Wanting to be with her all the time — that means you are infatuated with her. If she’s beautiful and charismatic and she shines that spotlight onto you, it’s a powerful thing. My ex had a beautiful younger mom friend like this, who had tons of close family and friends, so my ex always felt like she wanted more than her friend would give her. But if this friend, who was totally straight, had tried to seduce my ex, there is no question in my mind that she would have succeeded in a heartbeat — even if it was 10am in the locker room after their workout.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DW has a woman friend who she jumps at whenever she has the opportunity. Not full romantic like but to give you an idea we were on a date and her friend called and she jumped out of the table, went outside and laughed, and just had this glow about her for 45 minutes in the middle of our date. Clear she likes being with this woman. So its normal and I think her friend had better luck at romance with DW than me that night.

She probably talks with her friend about the guy she really likes. Sorry but that happens a lot with close women friends, we know more about your wife’s heart than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a married woman.

In the last year I’ve made friends with this wonderful friend (woman) and I find myself so attracted to her. To her energy and vibe and beauty…

I can’t say I want to have sex with her at all but that I’m just so attracted to her energy.
I want to be with her all the time… way more than I want to be with my husband. she’s fun, we can talk for hours, and she makes me laugh harder than anyone I’ve known.

Is this just life as a married woman with girl friends???

Wanting to be with her all the time — that means you are infatuated with her. If she’s beautiful and charismatic and she shines that spotlight onto you, it’s a powerful thing. My ex had a beautiful younger mom friend like this, who had tons of close family and friends, so my ex always felt like she wanted more than her friend would give her. But if this friend, who was totally straight, had tried to seduce my ex, there is no question in my mind that she would have succeeded in a heartbeat — even if it was 10am in the locker room after their workout.

I have close friendships with women but I've never felt this way about another woman.

I think that you can be straight and still once in awhile be attracted to a woman. I also think sometimes women don't realize they're bi until the right woman comes along. And I think attraction can be sexual or emotional or mental, and then lead to something more, or not.

I had a friend who divorced her husband and came out as lesbian. She'd said she'd considered herself bi before, but was identifying more as lesbian. She said her relationships with women were deeper emotionally. I understood that while also not desiring it for myself. So to me, it sounds like if you're drawn so much to someone, you may at least be bi.

[Anonymous]

I’m that woman. 1/2 the H’s love it and 1/2 get super jealous.

If your H likes it carry on, if not be mindful of the time, your H will start claiming he’s being “neglected “.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're making this weird
You can have a best friend that you want to spend lots and lots of time with.

If you're gay, you're gay. That's different.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you have a big crush on her. Maintain the friendship and let it evolve in a non-sexual way.

[Anonymous]

Whatever, Kyle troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're making this weird
You can have a best friend that you want to spend lots and lots of time with.

If you're gay, you're gay. That's different.

+1
I have felt this sort of infatuation when I make a new friend who is pretty and fun. It doesn't mean I want to sleep with her. And eventually it fades as I learn more about her! It's just how I react to a new friend with potential.

[Anonymous]

Do you get moist with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do feel like there’s some sexual tension there… But maybe I’m imagining things.

I would say I’m attracted to her, and she gives me a lot of compliments.

Sounds like there is something going on.

I have a couple of very close girlfriends- like, we know each other better than our (male) spouses do. We get each other, support each other, joke about living together in old age. But there is no sexual tension, it is very much like a sister relationship.

This sounds a little different.

This.

My best friend of almost 20 years is like my sister. We never fight, we’re always so supportive of each other, laugh all the time - she is truly the best person I know and I would be absolutely lost without her. I have never, ever, ever thought, and definitely have never talked about her like that. I’ve only thought about the men I’ve dated the way you’re talking about your friend.

My guess? You’re definitely bi-curious. To go more granular, maybe heterosexual and homoromantic.