Posting results on Instagram

[Anonymous]

We aren't a big 'social media family'--though very social. My husband and I never got facebook accounts and I only got Instagram to keep my family updated easier while living in Europe on sabbatical.

I now just have grandparents, cousins, aunts/uncles, siblings and closest friends (childhood.college.very close neighbor, etc) as followers.

You invite a lot of cr*p and negativity and jealousy and stuff when you post good news for people that aren't truly, truly close to you and happy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the “don’t want to brag” thing a bit lame? Whether or not it’s on Instagram, kids at the high school already know it, and that’s supposedly who the non-posters are trying to “protect.” And, what does it mean to “protect” your lower-achieving peers? Do you think they can’t handle it? That itself is kinda a put down. Also, eventually the kid is going to put it on their LinkedIn. Please tell your kid not to be one of those people who say they go to college in Boston. Just own it.

I'm one of the PP's who's kid does not want to post. It's not about bragging or protecting lower achieving peers. She said people didn't need to know her business. She didn't want a friend from her current school to drive with, or to connect with at college. It has nothing to do with Linked In, which she hasn't thought about. She said the people she wants to know, know. The rest of the school can mind their business. IDK She's just private in general with lots of things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We aren't a big 'social media family'--though very social. My husband and I never got facebook accounts and I only got Instagram to keep my family updated easier while living in Europe on sabbatical.

I now just have grandparents, cousins, aunts/uncles, siblings and closest friends (childhood.college.very close neighbor, etc) as followers.

You invite a lot of cr*p and negativity and jealousy and stuff when you post good news for people that aren't truly, truly close to you and happy for you.

^and I've taught me kids to keep a very limited if non-existent digital profile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the “don’t want to brag” thing a bit lame? Whether or not it’s on Instagram, kids at the high school already know it, and that’s supposedly who the non-posters are trying to “protect.” And, what does it mean to “protect” your lower-achieving peers? Do you think they can’t handle it? That itself is kinda a put down. Also, eventually the kid is going to put it on their LinkedIn. Please tell your kid not to be one of those people who say they go to college in Boston. Just own it.

I'm one of the PP's who's kid does not want to post. It's not about bragging or protecting lower achieving peers. She said people didn't need to know her business. She didn't want a classmate from her current school to drive with, or to connect with at college. It has nothing to do with Linked In, which she hasn't thought about. She said the people she wants to know, know. The rest of the school can mind their business. IDK She's just private in general with lots of things.

Basically she's over HS drama, and just wants to graduate and move on.

[Anonymous]

My kid isn't close to deciding.

He did get into a few T10s and some great T20s. Hitting up admitted student events this month.

He is WL at his dream Ivy and another Ivy.

Waiting to see how things play out---if he even posts. He is the most modest kid out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the “don’t want to brag” thing a bit lame? Whether or not it’s on Instagram, kids at the high school already know it, and that’s supposedly who the non-posters are trying to “protect.” And, what does it mean to “protect” your lower-achieving peers? Do you think they can’t handle it? That itself is kinda a put down. Also, eventually the kid is going to put it on their LinkedIn. Please tell your kid not to be one of those people who say they go to college in Boston. Just own it.

I'm one of the PP's who's kid does not want to post. It's not about bragging or protecting lower achieving peers. She said people didn't need to know her business. She didn't want a friend from her current school to drive with, or to connect with at college. It has nothing to do with Linked In, which she hasn't thought about. She said the people she wants to know, know. The rest of the school can mind their business. IDK She's just private in general with lots of things.

We got rid of our linked in profiles a few years back. Linked in is now a dating app...not joking.

[Anonymous]

I can't wait for the day that these schools wake up and start releasing the data so that we don't have to speculate over social media posts.

[Anonymous]

OP here. So, a number of things at play:
1) Need to attend Admitted Student Days
2) Waiting for financial aid
3) Waiting on wait lists
4) Prefer a low social-media profile, in part because good results can create unwanted drama

[Anonymous]

My daughter hasn't committed, but she is excited to join her school's page. She loves it and is genuinely happy for her classmates.

Not posting could mean anything -- trying to get off a waitlist, waiting for FAFSA, not interested in Instagram, trying to appear "cool."

[Anonymous]

My sophmore doesn’t even have Insta (or any other social media) and so far has no interest in it. That might change, but she’s very private and I can’t see her wanting to put her info out publicly.

Also, I thought the private school accounts posting matriculation results were mostly run by students, not official school accounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter hasn't committed, but she is excited to join her school's page. She loves it and is genuinely happy for her classmates.

Not posting could mean anything -- trying to get off a waitlist, waiting for FAFSA, not interested in Instagram, trying to appear "cool."

Hadn’t thought about the “cool” factor. Like, they’re above the child’s play of posting on a high school page. Already over their high school experience and imagining themselves at college with their future peers.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care whether someone else posts on instagram? Do it if you want. Don’t do it if you don’t want. Weird to judge others for not being on or into social media.

[Anonymous]

The insta thing is on the outs. It was a matter of time. Also a lot of kids are still deciding, it is still early especially with the number of kids still holding out for waitlists(some do not treat them as rejections)

[Anonymous]

What a joke. The same kids who have a R-EA or SCEA acceptance from a HYPSM in hand in December are the same kids who insist on submitting a RD application to every other Top 10 school in January. And then they opt for the R-EA admission, effectively c*ckblock a seat that one of their classmates might have gotten, before lecturing on "tacky" and humility.

Puh-lease ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t the “don’t want to brag” thing a bit lame? Whether or not it’s on Instagram, kids at the high school already know it, and that’s supposedly who the non-posters are trying to “protect.” And, what does it mean to “protect” your lower-achieving peers? Do you think they can’t handle it? That itself is kinda a put down. Also, eventually the kid is going to put it on their LinkedIn. Please tell your kid not to be one of those people who say they go to college in Boston. Just own it.

"Not bragging" isn't about protecting other people, it's about being a confident person who doesn't need others to be aware of your accomplishments in order to feel good about them. Linked in has a professional purpose; Instagram in high school does not.

Also, I thought the Boston/Harvard people usually did that so they could avoid having a tedious conversation about their school ("Harvard?! Oh, wow, you must be sooo smart! Or are your parents rich? harharhar") Though I agree the people who mention Boston repeatedly fishing for you to ask are annoying.