How to adult 20-30 somethings meet?

[Anonymous]

The most recent wedding I attended was for a couple who met through friends at another wedding.

I met my husband at a bar.

My sister-in-law met her husband online.

Several other friends met in graduate school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

[Anonymous]

I moved to DC after college. I would go out with people from work and friends from college who also moved to DC. And they would all bring their friends, etc. I went out to bars a lot.

Some people joined young adult sports leagues or running clubs.

My friend was dating my now husband’s friend - and that’s how we met. If you can believe it he was not the first friend of that guy that I dated!!! I date a guy’s college first - and then later my met my husband - the guy’s childhood friend. He knew of the college guy but they weren’t friends so it wasn’t so awkward…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DD, encourage going to dances. Doesn't have to be with a date, could be with a group of girl friends. I think the push/parental expectation of developing the best social skills possible is important. Don't let they don't want to go be the answer.

Dances?

Maybe they meant clubs?

The OP said her kid is still in HS so that’s why a PP was saying dances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

I'd have vehemently discouraged that. I don't want my kids marrying the first person they date! I want them to date at least a few people, and see what they like and don't like.

[Anonymous]

The younger married people I know met at a wedding, at a bar through friends, online, and in grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

I'd have vehemently discouraged that. I don't want my kids marrying the first person they date! I want them to date at least a few people, and see what they like and don't like.

I worked for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

I'd have vehemently discouraged that. I don't want my kids marrying the first person they date! I want them to date at least a few people, and see what they like and don't like.

Why? If someone finds a good partner, they should just discard them and wait until they've experienced half a dozen broken relationships and then just go with that person? She is a 28 year old practicing lawyer, not a 17 year old high school girl. If experience is such a miracle, why couples with previous relationship and marriage experience break up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

I'd have vehemently discouraged that. I don't want my kids marrying the first person they date! I want them to date at least a few people, and see what they like and don't like.

I worked for me.

Me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

I'd have vehemently discouraged that. I don't want my kids marrying the first person they date! I want them to date at least a few people, and see what they like and don't like.

Why? If someone finds a good partner, they should just discard them and wait until they've experienced half a dozen broken relationships and then just go with that person? She is a 28 year old practicing lawyer, not a 17 year old high school girl. If experience is such a miracle, why couples with previous relationship and marriage experience break up?

She doesn't know what her options are. How does she know he's a good partner? She's never created the opportunity (by dating other guys) to compare him to any other partners. Experience teaches you about yourself, your values, your boundaries, your desires in a partner, etc.

[Anonymous]

So many people pick parties at bars, it makes more sense why there are so many complaints about alcoholic husbands.

[Anonymous]

*partners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How did you/your AC meet someone? Any success stories from people who were not Mr./Ms. Popular?

my, currently 28 yo, daughter is marrying in Sept.

She had never dated in HS or College, always very dedicated to her studies. She came back home to live after college. She whined about how to meet someone and asked me to set her up with someone as she trusts my judgement (lol, umm, hell no, I'd never hear the end of it). Whining turned to crying sometimes. Yes I worried for her being 30 yo and "never been kissed".

Then at 24 yo, She decided to go off to Law School 1/2 way across the country. She was always busy studying and always news of "no boys" when I asked...until...

In her last year at Law school she tried an online dating app specific to her religion (as that's important to her). I think she had a date or 2 before meeting her now fiance. They are perfect for eachother.

I'd have vehemently discouraged that. I don't want my kids marrying the first person they date! I want them to date at least a few people, and see what they like and don't like.

Why? If someone finds a good partner, they should just discard them and wait until they've experienced half a dozen broken relationships and then just go with that person? She is a 28 year old practicing lawyer, not a 17 year old high school girl. If experience is such a miracle, why couples with previous relationship and marriage experience break up?

She doesn't know what her options are. How does she know he's a good partner? She's never created the opportunity (by dating other guys) to compare him to any other partners. Experience teaches you about yourself, your values, your boundaries, your desires in a partner, etc.

People with experience seems to be equally clueless.

[Anonymous]

I wonder why nobody says that when someone is deciding to get conceive?

[Anonymous]

I wonder why nobody says that when someone is deciding to conceive? That's when you are making a long term blind commitment and unlike marriage, there is no divorce.