Son is failing classes, I can’t afford another tutor.

[Anonymous]

Can he go to public school? Easier grading.

[Anonymous]

How do you afford private school then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the poster saying to just accept him as he is. What does he want to do? Does he have interests outside of school? I'd focus on what he does well.

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Parent the kid you have, not the one you want him to be. Help him figure out who he is, who he wants to be, and a path forward. Some kids will take longer to mature and may take a winding route, but they’ll eventually get there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has he been tested for learning disabilities?

This. The “I’m just not smart” is something my kid would say prior to us realizing he had several learning disabilities, mainly dyslexia. It’s mild and hewas smart enough to slide by most of the time. Finding out he just learned differently was a huge relief to him.

I’d have them evaluated if you have any thought it may be a learning disability.

[Anonymous]

Try Outschool classes. They are very affordable.

[Anonymous]

Every day after school, sit him down with Canvas open on his computer and watch him do his homework. Check his homework. You do not need a tutor for religion. Why is he struggling in religion? Is it because he does not understand what he is learning or is it because he doesn't turn in the work? If he needs help in Spanish, he can ask a family friend or classmate for help. How many years is he required to take Spanish? Most schools only require two years to graduate.

[Anonymous]

You need to make him take the meds. He isn’t functional without them.

[Anonymous]

FCPS has free tutoring online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has mild ADD, doesn’t want to take the meds for it. He is not depressed, with exception to his grades but part of him doesn’t care or rather he accepts he’s not “smart” - in his words.

In math, I hired an expensive tutor and he now has a B - this is after I spent so much money on mathnasium which is futile. I cannot hire a professional tutor for religion, spanish and English too. He’s 15, Feb. birthday. I threatened to make him repeat a grade, this is after being so “good” not yelling at him the last couple years. He’s sensitive.

He is going to get a job this summer, should i make him fork over some money towards all the tutoring? I am beside myself.

Take his phone.

He probably is all over his social media.

That is why he is ADD.

Take away his phone, although it may be too late.

[Anonymous]

You are spending your money in the wrong place.

Stop with the tutor.

Get him a thorough neuropsych/neuroed. Find out why he doesn’t want to take meds.

With that info, figure out how to help him understand himself.

You are way overdue to do these things. The kid needs your help.

[Anonymous]

Is college even the right place for him? Would he like to have a vocational career instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to make him take the meds. He isn’t functional without them.

NP and you can’t force a 15 yo to take meds. My 16 yo is currently not medicated after trying so many and has ADHD.

Lower your expectations. Is he going to fail the classes? Focus on the core content. It’s almost fourth quarter. If he’s in danger of actually failing, have him go see those teachers regularly. My kid is also in private and it’s much harder than public. I understand how religion and Spanish are likely required but just try to pass those and have him put energy into the others for now to earn credit for the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he have an IEP?

This is my question as well. Has he been evaluated for learning disabilities?

Many kids (like my DH) who have learning disabilities but they aren't evaluated/diagnosed, get to a point in school where they're just so frustrated and behind that they just give up. Before investing more money into tutoring, you may want to explore this possibility.

[Anonymous]

TAKE AWAY HIS SOCIAL MEDIA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you afford private school then?

Read that again, but slowly.