Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?

[Anonymous]

I think this is an important subject because if you're dating and you meet someone who is divorced, the natural thought is that they're done. This thread is showing that that's not always the case.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn’t that the best scenario, OP? That exes can be friends. Good for them!

My brother is friends with his ex and, to me, it's a sign of maturity in them both. I wish I were better at this.

[Anonymous]

Some exes are friends.

My ex and I had a nasty divorce, and are not friends by any means, but will chit-chat here and there about topics other than the kids. We are forced to have a relationship so best to make the most of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some exes are friends.

My ex and I had a nasty divorce, and are not friends by any means, but will chit-chat here and there about topics other than the kids. We are forced to have a relationship so best to make the most of it.

Then why not stay married and work out your issues? Friendship is the basis of a good marriage. Why divorce just to continue carrying on?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some exes are friends.

My ex and I had a nasty divorce, and are not friends by any means, but will chit-chat here and there about topics other than the kids. We are forced to have a relationship so best to make the most of it.

Then why not stay married and work out your issues? Friendship is the basis of a good marriage. Why divorce just to continue carrying on?

Friendship is a necessary but not sufficient requirement of marriage. Would you marry every friend you have?

Your question comes from a frankly old-fashioned, sexist perspective that men and women cannot be friends without sexual interest. I have a lot of male friends, but I have zero interest in any kind of intimate relationship with them - sometimes I'm not physically attracted, know their communication or attachment styles don't meet mine, dislike their financial priorities, know we want different ls in life or to live in different places.

There are a million reasons why people can be good friends and not be suitable for marriage.

In fact, I would be more worried if an ex-wife wouldn't talk to an ex-husband - that would be a signal that something went pretty wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some exes are friends.

My ex and I had a nasty divorce, and are not friends by any means, but will chit-chat here and there about topics other than the kids. We are forced to have a relationship so best to make the most of it.

Then why not stay married and work out your issues? Friendship is the basis of a good marriage. Why divorce just to continue carrying on?

Friendship is a necessary but not sufficient requirement of marriage. Would you marry every friend you have?

Your question comes from a frankly old-fashioned, sexist perspective that men and women cannot be friends without sexual interest. I have a lot of male friends, but I have zero interest in any kind of intimate relationship with them - sometimes I'm not physically attracted, know their communication or attachment styles don't meet mine, dislike their financial priorities, know we want different ls in life or to live in different places.

There are a million reasons why people can be good friends and not be suitable for marriage.

In fact, I would be more worried if an ex-wife wouldn't talk to an ex-husband - that would be a signal that something went pretty wrong.

This would only support your argument if you were male.

Op, plenty of people regret divorce.

[Anonymous]

My ex and I were terrible married but over 15 years we've become good exes. Our children are now mid 20's and every two weeks or so we talk about them because with 3 twenty somethings there is always something. We have both remarried and are happy and I know that our children really like that we are both happy and that we get along. My husband doesn't have an issue with it because there is no ex drama. I haven't seen my ex in a few years but I now think of him as a friend even if he was a lousy husband. Most important is that my children like that we get along. We didn't give them a good example of a marriage but maybe they are seeing a good example of something else.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t that the best scenario, OP? That exes can be friends. Good for them!

My brother is friends with his ex and, to me, it's a sign of maturity in them both. I wish I were better at this.

That’s not a sign of maturity. They either never loved each other or are still in love. The point of divorce is to move on and not still be attached.

[Anonymous]

He's hitting it on the reg.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's hitting it on the reg.

Reg? Huh?

[Anonymous]

Seems like people are very different in these situations. For me, I chat with my ex only about kid related things. Not long phone conversations about other life stuff. That would bother me if the person I was with did that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's hitting it on the reg.

Reg? Huh?

Regs are low quality marijuana.

[Anonymous]

Currently dating someone who talks to his exwife a lot. It’s annoying. It is mostly related to kids but they are in communication all the time and she (like lots of females) loves to call and talk on the phone. This is why some people tend to date those that do not come with an exwife or exhusband.

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Anonymous wrote:My ex and I were terrible married but over 15 years we've become good exes. Our children are now mid 20's and every two weeks or so we talk about them because with 3 twenty somethings there is always something. We have both remarried and are happy and I know that our children really like that we are both happy and that we get along. My husband doesn't have an issue with it because there is no ex drama. I haven't seen my ex in a few years but I now think of him as a friend even if he was a lousy husband. Most important is that my children like that we get along. We didn't give them a good example of a marriage but maybe they are seeing a good example of something else.

This.
My ex and I get along. We have children together.
We both have only ourselves to blame for getting married to the wrong person.
He is a hoarder, looked down on my family background, and my family did not exist in his world. His family came first. Our children are not his priority. I can only blame myself for walking into that.
I don't know about what he thinks, but he didn't understand the gravity of the marital commitment. I pushed the marital agenda and that's also on me. So I'm not angry with him.
But we have also known each other for the greater half of our lives and I was involved with his family.

I can get along with him, but not want to be married to him nor in love with that. Actually, I am deeply ashamed to have married someone who had contempt for my background.

[Anonymous]

Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.