Why would a man stay in constant contact with his ex-wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is someone who is on a tear this morning across this forum who NEEDS to blame people for not having perfect foresight in relationships.

Girl, we get that you are perfect.

Huh? Where? Bold it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is someone who is on a tear this morning across this forum who NEEDS to blame people for not having perfect foresight in relationships.

Girl, we get that you are perfect.

Huh? Where? Bold it.

Read above, sweetcheeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is someone who is on a tear this morning across this forum who NEEDS to blame people for not having perfect foresight in relationships.

Girl, we get that you are perfect.

Huh? Where? Bold it.

Read above, sweetcheeks.

It’s been read and there is nothing about anyone having perfect foresight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other

This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.

That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?

Example 1.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.

There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.

Yes, there is. He is incompetent.

You’re incompetent if you have children with someone who you claim as incompetent.

Example 2.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.

There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.

Yes, there is. He is incompetent.

And you didn’t know this before?

Example 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other

This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.

That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?

um yes you definitely can lol

Definition of selfishness. Why would you bring a child into the world with parents who don’t love each other. You are a bad individual.

Example 4.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read up in this topic and it was one of two reasons as to why they can remain friends or want to remain friends.
-One or both never actually loved the other
-One or both are still in love with the other

This.

#1 for us. Constant coparenting communication. We were never in love.

That can’t be. You wouldn’t bring a child into the world with someone you aren’t in love with?

Men—even husbands—can coerce sex without protection you know. Also, birth control fails. I experienced both. Parenting was not the plan.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ex and I talk every day. We have elementary kids. We talk more now than when married because of coparenting.

I expect no contact except 1-2 times a year when they are grown up.

There is no reason you would have to talk everyday.

Yes, there is. He is incompetent.

You’re incompetent if you have children with someone who you claim as incompetent
.

Was not a choice to get pregnant when you say “no, I don’t want to get pregnant.”

[Anonymous]

I get along fine with my ex and have for years. We chat every few weeks. I've gone on vacations with him and my adult kids. Neither of us have any sexual interest in each other anymore. We both loved each other for at least most of our marriage and may still love each other but not romantically. It's not impossible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I ex husband and I have friendly conversations every week. What’s it to you?

Get your own life.

But how does this work once you are in a relationship with someone new?

I have a family member who is still close with his ex. They still go to dinner and occasionally she’ll sleep over in his guest bedroom (or so he says.) I will never understand why they divorced if they still carry on like this. Neither is seeing anyone else. Make it make sense.

It makes sense for them and not for you. So they have this arrangement and you don't. Easy. Many people do things that we wouldn't do ourselves. Accept or reject. You can't change people. Maybe try to wonder why you feel compelled that people should follow your way?