A DCUM how would you react

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Glad they're going and excited that I'm going to get a taste, even though I know the table experience would be better!

Can't relate to the other answers, honestly.

Same here. And I would have done my best to rearrange my schedule and see if they could squeeze in a 3rd. Or pay my kid off to get him to go walk around a museum for 2 hours.

[Anonymous]

I would be furious.

[Anonymous]

Why is spouse b trying to get a reservation when they don’t care about it in the first place and taking one when they know their spouse can’t join? It seems like they are setting up for spouse a to be annoyed.

[Anonymous]

I'd be envious that they get to go but glad for them and glad I at least get some takeaway from there.

[Anonymous]

As the person who is often Spouse B, I wouldn't have gone to the restaurant under those circumstances. I would have suggested we all get carry out for dinner together.

[Anonymous]

Is spouse A job so critically important to humanity’s survival that they can’t take a 90 minute break for lunch or start workday a few hours earlier to free up early eve?

[Anonymous]

I would be mad.

[Anonymous]

I’d be mad/sad. I think it would feel like a bait and switch - you weren’t interested, couldn’t get resos with me, but now want to go and exclude me? No way jose! At least I’d never do that to my spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is spouse A job so critically important to humanity’s survival that they can’t take a 90 minute break for lunch or start workday a few hours earlier to free up early eve?

Leaving your snotty tone to the side, Spouse A is working out of town for a week so it is reasonable yo think s/he cannot control is schedule that week.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Spouse A didn't care. Most of coworkers shared they'd be mad and I was honestly surprised. Spouse A doesn't play games so they were genuinely not upset. Unfortunately we had both just taken a week and a half off so Spouse A had a ton of meetings and work to catch up on and a 90 min lunch at 215 really wasn't possible. Spouse B works full time but the hours are very flexible. They had done all their hours and work for the week in the 3 days leading up to the trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Spouse A didn't care. Most of coworkers shared they'd be mad and I was honestly surprised. Spouse A doesn't play games so they were genuinely not upset. Unfortunately we had both just taken a week and a half off so Spouse A had a ton of meetings and work to catch up on and a 90 min lunch at 215 really wasn't possible. Spouse B works full time but the hours are very flexible. They had done all their hours and work for the week in the 3 days leading up to the trip.

Are you Spouse A or B?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like OP is Spouse B.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is spouse A job so critically important to humanity’s survival that they can’t take a 90 minute break for lunch or start workday a few hours earlier to free up early eve?

Leaving your snotty tone to the side, Spouse A is working out of town for a week so it is reasonable yo think s/he cannot control is schedule that week.

Point still stands. Spouse B is awfully defensive.

[Anonymous]

Story of my life. Dh, through work lunches, always ends up trying new places I want to go to, months before I get to. I am jealous while happy he gets to go and a bit sad he never enjoys them because he has a picky basic palate. These are not strong emotions that stick around more than a moment though so I doubt your spouse A is stewing on anything

[Anonymous]

I would be bummed but not angry. I would 100% know that their solution (somebody gets to go and everybody gets to try it in some fashion) was well-meant and I would tell them so but I’d ask them to plan to do something else instead please bc I would be so jealous and my spouse would for sure understand and just go eat lunch elsewhere that day.