Husband insists he won’t not have motorcycle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem is him saying that something is not negotiable. Of course it's negotiable. I'd make his life a living hell if he got one.

That's more like a terrorist/hostage situation (you are the terrorist) than a negotiation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned to ride a motorcycle at the age of 42. Now, there's a few factors to take into consideration.

1. Why does he want to ride? Is it to relax or for an adrenaline rush? I learned to ride so I could take relaxing rides on weekends and sometimes ride into work.

2. What type of motorcycle is he looking at purchasing? If it's a sport bike that is a red flag. If it's a cruisers it's different. I purchase a cruiser where you sit more upright. It's not about speed. It's about comfort.

3. Where he learns is important. The best motorcycle school train you to realize to always ride defensively. Always assume no one can see you at all times. Always yield to cars, people, etc. You need to have the right mentality for it.

After all these years I have yet to come close to an accident. However, since the pandemic I have not ridden as often since it's clear more and more cars on the road do not pay attention. But, this goes back to when he will ride. If he's riding in a group relaxing on the weekends I wouldn't worry. If he's buying a sports bike and going 90mph weaving through traffic I would worry.

I think that this is a sensible answer.

I ride horses. I used to enjoy riding hot horses and doing high risk sports with them. Now that others are dependent on me, I still ride, but in a much less extreme way. My current horse is young, but she's phlegmatic and built like a sofa.

Horseback riding combines the expense of yachting with the safety profile of motorcycle riding. =)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You might first ask him how he plans to deal with his emotions when he smells your perfume and sees you all dressed up to go out on a Friday night while he and the home health aide stay home? I mean hey, he got to have fun with his hobby, why should you live the rest of your life with no intimacy?

Your next step is to look into long-term care, disability and a 10-15x yearly income life insurance policy.

Yes, because the OP is some hot MILF with two kids and she'll be going on dates. Please stop with this stupidity. Also, do your research. What is the percent of motorcycle accidents in this country?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned to ride a motorcycle at the age of 42. Now, there's a few factors to take into consideration.

1. Why does he want to ride? Is it to relax or for an adrenaline rush? I learned to ride so I could take relaxing rides on weekends and sometimes ride into work.

2. What type of motorcycle is he looking at purchasing? If it's a sport bike that is a red flag. If it's a cruisers it's different. I purchase a cruiser where you sit more upright. It's not about speed. It's about comfort.

3. Where he learns is important. The best motorcycle school train you to realize to always ride defensively. Always assume no one can see you at all times. Always yield to cars, people, etc. You need to have the right mentality for it.

After all these years I have yet to come close to an accident. However, since the pandemic I have not ridden as often since it's clear more and more cars on the road do not pay attention. But, this goes back to when he will ride. If he's riding in a group relaxing on the weekends I wouldn't worry. If he's buying a sports bike and going 90mph weaving through traffic I would worry.

I think that this is a sensible answer.

I ride horses. I used to enjoy riding hot horses and doing high risk sports with them. Now that others are dependent on me, I still ride, but in a much less extreme way. My current horse is young, but she's phlegmatic and built like a sofa.

Exactly, a person can still do "risky" things just with more caution.

1. Discuss the type of motorcycle he's getting. Agree on a non-sports bike.
2. Confirm learning from a property motorcycle school.
3. Wear protective gear. Don't wear normal clothes (that's stupid). For those who don't know motorcycle gear has plastic plates throughout areas to protect in case of crashes. Purchase a quality helmet.
4. Ride when there is less traffic. I used to ride the entire GWP on Saturday or Sunday mornings. Very few cars. Very relaxing.

There are ways to minimize the risk. Also, getting him to ride with a group (or at least one other rider) makes a huge difference. Groups of riders are always safer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem is him saying that something is not negotiable. Of course it's negotiable. I'd make his life a living hell if he got one.

That's more like a terrorist/hostage situation (you are the terrorist) than a negotiation.

Exactly! I'd be happy to be the terrorist if he even put his foot down over something as stupid as a motorcycle.

[Anonymous]

tell him to join the spinal fusion facebook group and read all their posts and if he still wants one then fine.

[Anonymous]

Two dads I know in our kids school have motorcycles. Whenver I go to their houses, I notice a layer of dust on the motorcycles. They're never used.

[Anonymous]

A grandpa next door is around 70, he still rides every so often I hear him warming up that baby, very old school!

Yes, take out a good life insurance on him while he is youngish.

[Anonymous]

Is this a new hobby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might first ask him how he plans to deal with his emotions when he smells your perfume and sees you all dressed up to go out on a Friday night while he and the home health aide stay home? I mean hey, he got to have fun with his hobby, why should you live the rest of your life with no intimacy?

Your next step is to look into long-term care, disability and a 10-15x yearly income life insurance policy.

Yes, because the OP is some hot MILF with two kids and she'll be going on dates. Please stop with this stupidity. Also, do your research. What is the percent of motorcycle accidents in this country?

Hey! She’s a hot milf!

I looked it up and her dh is 24x more likely per mile to be injured or killed on a motorcycle. The data was national and I was not able to find localized statistics for injury/death rates in the DC metro area where 75% of the drivers have no problem texting, watching tick-tock’s or FaceTiming from their cars.

[Anonymous]

OP my DH really wanted one, made it an issue between us for years. I finally gave in, and said just please buy the best gear (helmet, jacket, etc) and be careful.

He started researching what the best gear was, and landed on forums where people were telling their accident horror stories. Then he came to me and said he was upgrading his truck instead, because he didn't want to take the risk of riding a motorcycle, now that it was becoming a reality.

That outcome was not my intention, so it was really interesting to see.

[Anonymous]

I am in same boat OP

Husband has a motorcycle class & Triumph tabs on his screen constantly. So far it’s just a dream but I feel like I’ll be blindsided if he actually goes through with it. It’s so dangerous- how can it be an option he’s even consider?! Ugh

I’m not okay with it but don’t know what to do

I’ve suggested going to a closed track once a year as an alternative. BMW offers this (in auto)

Good luck with your situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might first ask him how he plans to deal with his emotions when he smells your perfume and sees you all dressed up to go out on a Friday night while he and the home health aide stay home? I mean hey, he got to have fun with his hobby, why should you live the rest of your life with no intimacy?

Your next step is to look into long-term care, disability and a 10-15x yearly income life insurance policy.

Yes, because the OP is some hot MILF with two kids and she'll be going on dates. Please stop with this stupidity. Also, do your research. What is the percent of motorcycle accidents in this country?

Hey! She’s a hot milf!

I looked it up and her dh is 24x more likely per mile to be injured or killed on a motorcycle. The data was national and I was not able to find localized statistics for injury/death rates in the DC metro area where 75% of the drivers have no problem texting, watching tick-tock’s or FaceTiming from their cars.

Don't forget the vaping and driving, pp.

[Anonymous]

There was a freakish amount of motorcycle deaths in my young widows support group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You might first ask him how he plans to deal with his emotions when he smells your perfume and sees you all dressed up to go out on a Friday night while he and the home health aide stay home? I mean hey, he got to have fun with his hobby, why should you live the rest of your life with no intimacy?

Your next step is to look into long-term care, disability and a 10-15x yearly income life insurance policy.

This is such a great idea! Make sure you say exactly this to him. He will definitely get the point.