How to get over rejection from dream school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

How do you know OP did her kid thing that way? As a parent, you encourage your kids to work hard school get good grades and work hard to get to a good college. The problem is your kid who has done all that didn't get accepted, while others do. The kids have to think of some college to go to and work towards that but still not accepted. That is not easy to deal as a parent and OP is just trying to find out from others.

Well…if my kid said their dream school is X, I would quickly tell my kid there is no such thing as a dream school. How hard is that?

For literally every school that looks like X there are dozens of equivalents.

Ok, how do you guide your kid to apply for college? Apply as many and see where you can get in. So we can learn from it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

Just scroll by and show some empathy instead of being a nasty Dbag, then.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks to the helpful posters. DC is "fine". He loved it and isn't home crying by any stretch. And has never called it his dream school. I am prob more upset knowing it checks every box that the others don't.

It just feels like the others are settling and all have negatives. This one doesn't. And it was a target.

You can't control if kid vibes with a school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the poster who is sick of these whining parent posts. Teach typing child to be resilient and to not to prescribe to thoughts of there being a perfect school. That's absurd. To teach your child that they will be fine and you get them excited about the options they do have.

I'm sick of jerks like you. You're making a lot of assumptions about what those parents are and are not teaching their children, for one. You know absolutely NOTHING about that. And judging them for being disappointed. And demonstrating unbelievable lack of empathy and humanity. Shame on you and all of you.

If you're sick of it, move on to another topic instead of coming here and spreading your toxicity. The fact you are unable to do that, demonstrating lack of impulse control that is little better than a toddler, is what's absurd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

If you’re so sick of something just move on to the next. No need to crap all over a parent dealing with a real problem.

DP here. It’s not a “real problem.” It’s a minor setback that means nothing. There are plenty of “real problems” in this world and that ain’t one of them.

The poster is right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

If you’re so sick of something just move on to the next. No need to crap all over a parent dealing with a real problem.

This is not a real problem. Get some perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks to the helpful posters. DC is "fine". He loved it and isn't home crying by any stretch. And has never called it his dream school. I am prob more upset knowing it checks every box that the others don't.

It just feels like the others are settling and all have negatives. This one doesn't. And it was a target.

You can't control if kid vibes with a school.

Sounds like we have a parent problem here - not a kid problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was perfect in all regards. When multiple friends got in and will go.

Name the school and we'll tear it apart for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

How do you know OP did her kid thing that way? As a parent, you encourage your kids to work hard school get good grades and work hard to get to a good college. The problem is your kid who has done all that didn't get accepted, while others do. The kids have to think of some college to go to and work towards that but still not accepted. That is not easy to deal as a parent and OP is just trying to find out from others.

Well…if my kid said their dream school is X, I would quickly tell my kid there is no such thing as a dream school. How hard is that?

For literally every school that looks like X there are dozens of equivalents.

Ok, how do you guide your kid to apply for college? Apply as many and see where you can get in. So we can learn from it.

My kid is interested in a bunch of the big southern schools. I told my kid that Clemson, Auburn, UGA, South Carolina, Alabama etc are far more similar than they are different.

Apply to 10-12…we will find true safety equivalents as well (those are definitely targets for my kid). Once the dust settles, we visit (already visited some) and figure out what seems like the best option.

Make sense?

[Anonymous]

Our child was deferred and eventually rejected from their dream/target school last year. No reason why they shouldn't have gotten in based on stats, test scores, ECs, essays, etc. I will forever be angry about it.

And, child is thriving where they are. When we visited over family weekend, and I made a comment having seen a bumper sticker on car in front of us, child told me to get over it because they are happy where they are and are where they are meant to be.

[Anonymous]

Never should have let themselves have a dream school. Time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

Why are you here??
Same poster whose 2 kids are in college who still hangs here to give advice?
Get a hobby; move on. You are not helping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sick of these posts…there are gobs of them if you search DCUM.

There is no perfect school so it was all a lie anyway. You should never have let your kid think this way which is your fault.

Tell them life is hard, give them a couple of days to grieve then have them focus on all the great things about the schools they were accepted.

How do you know OP did her kid thing that way? As a parent, you encourage your kids to work hard school get good grades and work hard to get to a good college. The problem is your kid who has done all that didn't get accepted, while others do. The kids have to think of some college to go to and work towards that but still not accepted. That is not easy to deal as a parent and OP is just trying to find out from others.

Well…if my kid said their dream school is X, I would quickly tell my kid there is no such thing as a dream school. How hard is that?

For literally every school that looks like X there are dozens of equivalents.

Ok, how do you guide your kid to apply for college? Apply as many and see where you can get in. So we can learn from it.

My kid is interested in a bunch of the big southern schools. I told my kid that Clemson, Auburn, UGA, South Carolina, Alabama etc are far more similar than they are different.

Apply to 10-12…we will find true safety equivalents as well (those are definitely targets for my kid). Once the dust settles, we visit (already visited some) and figure out what seems like the best option.

Make sense?

And what happens if the child is interested to go to Duke, UNC or UVA and has the stats?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with the poster who is sick of these whining parent posts. Teach typing child to be resilient and to not to prescribe to thoughts of there being a perfect school. That's absurd. To teach your child that they will be fine and you get them excited about the options they do have.

I'm sick of jerks like you. You're making a lot of assumptions about what those parents are and are not teaching their children, for one. You know absolutely NOTHING about that. And judging them for being disappointed. And demonstrating unbelievable lack of empathy and humanity. Shame on you and all of you.

If you're sick of it, move on to another topic instead of coming here and spreading your toxicity. The fact you are unable to do that, demonstrating lack of impulse control that is little better than a toddler, is what's absurd.

It’s the same toxic poster over and over. She has a recognizable toxic style….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks to the helpful posters. DC is "fine". He loved it and isn't home crying by any stretch. And has never called it his dream school. I am prob more upset knowing it checks every box that the others don't.

It just feels like the others are settling and all have negatives. This one doesn't. And it was a target.

You can't control if kid vibes with a school.

Sounds like we have a parent problem here - not a kid problem.

Yes. And, honestly, I understand! My kid is waiting for ED2 next weekend, and it’s a school that I love for them. If they don’t get in, I will be sad; my kid will also be sad, but they have options that they have gotten excited about and are prepared to look forward. My sadness is my problem, not my kid’s, and my job is to make sure my kid knows that I’m also excited about their options.

So, OP, my advice is for you to fix your face, celebrate your kid’s options, and let him enjoy the rest of senior year.