Forced Into Screens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody plays sports they just do video games? That is why Americans are such 🐷

Go away, troll

[Anonymous]

Maybe for a s/o thread, but I was afraid of the dark and had nightmares as a kid, and I watched Freddy Krueger movies, but my kids don't watch scary movies or play scary games, and they never talk about being afraid of the dark or monsters or having nightmares so far, up to age 11.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of comments on here about people who just don’t do screens/ video games for their kids.

I just don’t know how that is possible. I really hate screens for kids but realized by resisting I was making our DS (9) the weirdo in his class as one do the few kids he knows that doesn’t play video games. Most of his social life revolves around discussing games/ tv shows. If there are kids who don’t get screens - where are they? Even school is screens all day!

We limit video games to 1-2 hours a week and do 30-45 mins a day of other tv/ videos.

With the modern world I just didn’t see another choice. We do lots of other stuff ( sports, outings, reading, board games) but some times the kids want video time and now it’s here to stay. I do feel them pushing for more and more. I know it’s addictive and i hate to see their little brains getting wired towards addictive type behaviors.

Part of me wants to go cold turkey and cut the screens. But I am not sure I could do that to my kids. I honestly felt like moderation was the key- but now I am not so sure.

I really feel myself longing for the 1990s before cell phones and when video games weren’t so “good”.

One thing my kids don’t do is “nothing”- I feel like when I was a kid I would spend a few hours every day just chilling in my room or just reading. Maybe we have our kids so much attention they can’t live without it.

Actually really easy for my family: this wouldn’t be a school we attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody plays sports they just do video games? That is why Americans are such 🐷

Very true

[Anonymous]

I was forced to be alive in an abusive family. I wish I was an orphan sometimes

[Anonymous]

Limited screens is fine. Show a bit of everything, not just a few. Like anime, videogames. If the kid has good grades, is empathetic then is fine.

We like Japanese anime and videogames, we have every console and steamdeck. And we have good government jobs. We just went to Magfest lol

Also I suggest talking to your kids about sexual abuse. Many kids are suffering from it and do not know how to talk because some parents and schools don't inform them about it like to say No when someone is doing something inappropriate

Talk to your kids about everything so they are aware of everything. That's the real world

[Anonymous]

Sports is lame imo, always just a bunch of alcoholic relatives drinking and watching stupid sports, yelling, they drink instead of assuming real life. Stupid alcohol

[Anonymous]

Sports= brainless

Videogames= better choice
There DDR, dancing games, rhythm games,

Computers were created because they wanted to create a game

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sports= brainless

Videogames= better choice
There DDR, dancing games, rhythm games,

Computers were created because they wanted to create a game

[Anonymous]

Never mind the fact that all kids can't play sports. I don't think kids should waste all their time on screens either, but sports are not the be all end all.

[Anonymous]

I just wish we could do “a little” scree time. Trying to limit it —even to something like 6 hours a day!!— results in screaming and crying. We just have to do none. He is disgruntled but there aren’t multiple fights every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of comments on here about people who just don’t do screens/ video games for their kids.

I just don’t know how that is possible. I really hate screens for kids but realized by resisting I was making our DS (9) the weirdo in his class as one do the few kids he knows that doesn’t play video games. Most of his social life revolves around discussing games/ tv shows. If there are kids who don’t get screens - where are they? Even school is screens all day!

We limit video games to 1-2 hours a week and do 30-45 mins a day of other tv/ videos.

With the modern world I just didn’t see another choice. We do lots of other stuff ( sports, outings, reading, board games) but some times the kids want video time and now it’s here to stay. I do feel them pushing for more and more. I know it’s addictive and i hate to see their little brains getting wired towards addictive type behaviors.

Part of me wants to go cold turkey and cut the screens. But I am not sure I could do that to my kids. I honestly felt like moderation was the key- but now I am not so sure.

I really feel myself longing for the 1990s before cell phones and when video games weren’t so “good”.

One thing my kids don’t do is “nothing”- I feel like when I was a kid I would spend a few hours every day just chilling in my room or just reading. Maybe we have our kids so much attention they can’t live without it.

Personally, when I shit on “screens” is when it’s like… mindless scrolling on tiktok, on demand youtube whatever you want, the kind of stuff that makes them so intolerant to patience, they’re used to being served what they want right then with no effort involved, just drag your finger to move to the next video.

At least with video games there’s thinking involved, and if it’s online your kids are probably talking to their friends. And TV as in like, cable where you can’t instantly binge your choice of 1000s of shows, have to watch commercials, have to wait for your show to air at a certain time. I don’t think that’s too bad either.

Just my opinion though.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know any middle schooler without access to screens, even “uncool” ones. Maybe not a phone but they still have a tablet or computer where they can watch stuff, and obviously the TV. If you think it’s hard at 9, just wait until 12 or 13.

[Anonymous]

Simple: you parent. That means you are the adult in the room.

You are in control. Don’t like how that sounds? well too bad. Grow up. Be the one in control; ie - a parent.

And the rest of society? Screw society. Let the rest of society give their kids unlimited screen time and stay up as late as they want; those kids can mop the floors at 7/11 and struggle in community college.

In my house? No social media. More than half the U.S. states attorney generals have filed lawsuits, in federal court, suing social media giants because:

- social media is known to be harmful to children, and
- social media is intentionally designed to be addictive to children.

Hey, if you know better than half the states attorney generals? If the research magically doesn’t apply to your kid?? GREAT! Unlimited social. Tell us how that works out for you in 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We live in San Francisco, and a lot of people here do very minimal screens. My oldest has never played a video game at all. They talk about tons of stuff besides shows and video games.

Look to make friends with people who work in tech - it's well known we are low tech with our kids.

Yeah, like Philip Morris or Pepsi execs who warn their own kids away from cigs/soda but are happy to profit off the addiction of other people’s kids. Way to go, pat yourself on the back.