If you didn’t sleep train, what age did wake ups stop?
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
Thanks for answering. Did there turn out to be anything…wrong with her? Emotionally, physically, mentally? Autism, SPD, etc? |
Anonymous
| Age 4. Before then it was most nights (90%)? At age 4, maybe 4.5, it was like a switch flipped and she started STTN. We never had more kids because it was brutal. |
Anonymous
I agree. And people who clearly should not be parents. Getting a good nights sleep is so important. OP you really need parenting classes |
Anonymous
|
Both my kids were sleeping very well AFTER they were 18 months old. We have a huge master bedroom and a huge king size bed, so I also co-slept with them when they wanted to.
My kids were breastfed and were fed on demand. No schedule really. AND they also were read each night and that is how they slept. But, unless they were sick, they were not getting up. Oh, since I was home and DH wanted to spend time with the kids, my children slept at around 9 pm. LOL. There was probably no discipline at my house regarding sleeping time for my kids. They both were very easy kids though. I think sleep training makes sense if you are a working mom. |
Anonymous
People who think I'm a monster for letting my six month old cry for an hour for three nights, yet are ok with their kids being chronically sleep deprived for literal years. Make it make sense. |
Anonymous
|
3 kids. First stopped waking up at night right after turning 1. Second around 2 and third around 2.5 or so.
I still sit with younger (5) until he falls asleep (10-15 min). I spend 15-20 with each of the older ones to talk and cuddle a bit, but leave when they are in bed, but awake. |
Anonymous
| 2 1/2 once his newborn sister moved into his room. |
Anonymous
| Wow some of these responses are bleak. I was hoping to avoid sleep training with baby #2 but we got to 9 months with many wake ups and I couldn't do it any more. So much guilt but this thread actually makes me feel better. I don't know how people do it- I was getting so irritable and it wasn't fair to my older child so something had to give. I guess some people can handle it better. |
Anonymous
| About 1.5 |
Anonymous
|
3. As with a PP, it's not that we didn't intentionally sleep train, it just did not take. She would cry until she threw up, and that just did not stop. She slept with us until she was ready to move on. At 3, a switch flipped, and then she was ready to STTN.
I don't know if it was the OP that asked, but she is neurotypical. A bit sensitive and melodramatic, but perfectly normal, social, etc. She's now a teen. |
Anonymous
My kids were not sleep deprived and not were we. Kids slept with parents or parents slept with kids. Kids didn’t wake up and if they did they saw parents next to them and fell back asleep because they were not scared of being alone. Everyone slept great and happy and nobody cared for hours for parents that never came. To each their own |
Anonymous
|
Around age 2 for all of mine, which was also around the time I stopped nursing them. My oldest nursed a few months after sleeping thru the night, my middle stopped nursing first and then slept thru the night a couple months after. My youngest is the only one who ever wanted to climb in bed with us in the middle of the night. She did that maybe once or twice a week, tapering off until she stopped around 4? She’s 7 now and would definitely love to sleep with us every night if we let her! She is neurotypical, just an extremely cuddly person. Always wants lots of hugs and to snuggle on the couch constantly.
We tried sleep training our first at 6 months and used the same methods all my friends swore worked for their kids. It didn’t work, at all, so I gave up and kept nursing him back to sleep. He was definitely the worst sleeper of the 3, so many wake ups and wouldn’t go back to sleep without nursing. He has ADHD but no sensory issues. He is now a happy, independent teen with no issues going to sleep alone. But in those early days I thought he would never sleep! |
Anonymous
| My oldest is 10 and was also literally immune to sleep training. She still doesn’t sleep alone. |
Anonymous
I ended up sleep training both of my kids but would have preferred not to get to that point. Unfortunately even with cosleeping both of them would wake up and need to be walked around, sometimes for 1+ hours multiple times in the middle of the night. I wondered both times if they were just very low sleep needs but once they were sleep trained they slept a normal amount overnight. It just doesn't always work out the way you want it to. Some parents are ridiculously judgemental so I only mention sleep training if I know they're not... I felt guilty enough as it is. |
Anonymous
Same here. My son is almost 6. He probably still wakes 1-2 per week and comes into our bed. He isnt sleep deprived- he is the happiest, highest energy, joyful kid. He runs circles around other kids his age. He is reading entire books on his own and doing double digit subtraction and addition. He was a struggle as an infant- multiple health issues through about 1.5 years old. He nursed until 2.5, thought weaning would help, it did not. Time and flexibility helped. Also recognizing that he is high touch. Loves cuddles and being with people. Ive considered getting a cat or smaller dog to sleep with him but cant guarantee that would happen so I just enjoy the cuddles as they occur. Nighttime issues are two-fold in my opinion: lower sleep needs or higher separation anxiety/touch requirements. Outside of actual health issues. OP it improved, slowly and with lots of setbacks but to be frank, youll find that with people who sleep trained too. Some kids have to be retrained over and over and some parents end up locking their kids in their rooms to keep them in from 7-7 or whatever arbitrary time they decide. \ |