How to work on inner child issues on your own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Distract, distract, distract as other PPs have said.

And, this sounds nuts, but talk to your 'inner child' and tell her all the things you want to hear. Everything you want this BPD or any other nitwit to say, say it to yourself instead.

That consoling voice is the voice you want to hear and listen to.

Actually, I would do the reverse, and listen to all the things the inner child wants to say, without any judgment. Your inner child is like anyone else -- a person who wants to vent and be listened to. The key here is to listen without trying to come up with any solutions, plans, theories, etc. Just listen and let the child talk. This is ultimately the goal of meditation -- getting to a place where you can let your mind and emotions talk to you without you immediately reacting or thinking about what they are telling you. Because you don't immediately react, you create space where you can see the issues clearly and begin to see how you can resolve them.

[Anonymous]

Have a talk with your inner child and tell her the things she needed to hear when she was hurting. Empathize with her and provide comfort. Just let your feelings flow and be gentle with yourself through the process, which may be painful at times. You can use old photos or even a stuffed animal as a proxy for the little girl/woman who needs to be soothed. It may feel hokey but I know from first-hand experience it leads to healing once you find the courage to do the work. Hugs!