Ten ways to raise a student that is an asset and not a liability in their classroom

[Anonymous]

My now college freshman has inattentive ADHD and high-functioning autism, and he struggled in K-12. However I always noticed how caring and appreciative his teachers were to him, as opposed to some of the noisier, more boisterous kids in his class. Turns out, having a polite, daydreaming personality is less of a burden on a teacher than the kind who is always interjecting and interrupting. And yet, none of these kids are bad people! They were just born that way, and controlling your innate personality is sometimes plumb impossible. It's just that some personalities are less well-suited to group herding, and more work for the teacher...

I suppose that Tik Tok thinks it's targeting the parents of neurotypical "spoiled brat"who can, but aren't used to, controlling their emotions and impulses. Maybe in the elementary set?

Anyway. Just wanted to note that a small subset of the kid population cannot help having the behaviors they have. Sure, the rest can be trained.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a great list and I can see areas where I need to work harder as the parent of a know-it-all type

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’d like to think you’re being sarcastic but I’m afraid you’re not.

Which items do you think kids shouldn’t be taught?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’d like to think you’re being sarcastic but I’m afraid you’re not.

Which items do you think kids shouldn’t be taught?

Don't feed the troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’d like to think you’re being sarcastic but I’m afraid you’re not.

Which items do you think kids shouldn’t be taught?

All of them. See this list from the NMAACH.
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EZ1zRSDWoAEDemn?format=jpg&name=large

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’m black and seriously hope this is snark. Please don’t hold my children to low standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Iow, teach them not to have a disability.

I'll get right on that.

Signed,
Parent of an autistic student who can't do many of those things. I guess she's a liability.

Kids with disabilities still need to be taught. Kids with ADHD who lose their coats or water bottles all the time do not need brand new, fancy coats or water bottles. They can get the crappy ones that don’t work as well, they can help pay for their 4th lost coat. They need accountability too—and it will be more work on the parents behalf, but it’s still important to teach them to the extent that you can. Throwing your hands up in the air and blaming their disability and not working to teach them does not help your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’m black and seriously hope this is snark. Please don’t hold my children to low standards.

It’s definitely a troll. I’m 52. That list is way that nearly all AA over the age of 40 were raised. None of us thought our parents were upholding white culture by expecting us to be courteous and discreet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

That doesn’t make sense. Explain yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Iow, teach them not to have a disability.

I'll get right on that.

Signed,
Parent of an autistic student who can't do many of those things. I guess she's a liability.

Ugh I'm not the OP but seriously I think we all know this person is not talking about students with autism. Everything is not about you and your child.

Of course these entitled parents believe everything is about them and theirs while ruining teaching for adults and education for other children.

I'd bet money it is her kid that clears out classrooms while the demanding empathy from everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’d like to think you’re being sarcastic but I’m afraid you’re not.

Which items do you think kids shouldn’t be taught?

Don't feed the troll.

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Iow, teach them not to have a disability.

I'll get right on that.

Signed,
Parent of an autistic student who can't do many of those things. I guess she's a liability.

The fact that your child has challenges with those basic skills doesn’t mean that the vast majority of children can’t be taught those skills. The exceptions should not define the rules.

+1 ASD and ADHD in our family too. The more NT children who master these skills, the easier it will be for our ND children to grow up, learn some of the skills too, and function more happily in society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’m black and seriously hope this is snark. Please don’t hold my children to low standards.

The pandemic has caused schools to lower standards for attendance, participation, work completion, etc. It’s sad that we are basically begging and bribing our students just to attend school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

I’m black and seriously hope this is snark. Please don’t hold my children to low standards.

If you don't like this, tell progressives to stop being insane. The Smithsonian's MNAACH put this out a few years ago: https://images.app.goo.gl/6pSSBgkBC5idLWUt7

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just came across this tiktok that I found very helpful as a parent, and I thought I'd pass it along.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8C15Wnc/

I definitely think the whole eight-minute video is worth a watch for those who want to help their kids have a better educational experience, but for those who aren't on tiktok, the ten things are:

1. Teach them how to delay verbal opposition.
2. Teach diplomatic/non-violent conflict resolution.
3. Teach them how to be bored. (for example, don't give them a screen for a couple of hours during a car trip)
4. Teach them how to accept the answer no from a teacher.
5. Make them responsible for their own property.
6. Teach them how to check in - teach them to take the initiative to communicate with you about grades, upcoming deadlines, etc.
7. Teach the importance of being reliable.
8. Model kindness, generosity, and empathy.
9. Depending on economic situation, get them involved in activities (especially ones that don't involve screens).
10. Treat their teacher like a human being.

Every item on this list is an aspect of whiteness. Expecting black and Hispanic children to do these this is racist. Do better.

That doesn’t make sense. Explain yourself.

Ask the Smithsonian's MNAAHC. They put out the chart of whiteness.