Enthusiasm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.

this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. He's asexual and hasn't been remotely interested in sex for over 15 years. Plenty of sex at the beginning, but I think he did it just because he thought he had to. It's fine, I don't mind -- he's great otherwise.

Maybe he's gay or maybe he's no longer physically attracted to you specifically?

[Anonymous]

Been dating 1.5 years and yes! We are in our 50s

[Anonymous]

My DH is probably the most enthusiastic bedroom partner that ever existed. He get's his own pleasure from pleasing his partner. 15+ years together and it seems to get even more enthusiastic as the years go on even when I don't think that's possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.

Um. This is not what OP meant by enthusiasm and also, Yikes! LOL

[Anonymous]

Lots of thirsty people in the threads the last day or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of thirsty people in the threads the last day or two.

Or one extremely frustrated person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. He's asexual and hasn't been remotely interested in sex for over 15 years. Plenty of sex at the beginning, but I think he did it just because he thought he had to. It's fine, I don't mind -- he's great otherwise.

Have you tried doing more around the house ?

[Anonymous]

DW is somewhat enthusiastic but I’d love to see some improvement. Not unhappy but I wish she approached it like a prisoner just let out of jail …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.

Um. This is not what OP meant by enthusiasm and also, Yikes! LOL

Please describe enthusiasm.

Are u a dude and don’t know women are often performative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.

Is that what you think enthusiasm in the bedroom means?

Please describe enthusiasm vs performative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.

I don’t expect enthusiasm or necessarily even happily willing. Things would improve with just “willing”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.

I don’t expect enthusiasm or necessarily even happily willing. Things would improve with just “willing”.

Mileage varies. If my wife is merely tolerating sex, it's overly complicated masturbation. I'd much rather she just say "no thanks" at that point.

[Anonymous]

Dating 10 months, ages 41/46 and also hell yes.

[Anonymous]

like a dead fish.