Enthusiasm

[Anonymous]

Is your partner enthusiastic when it comes to the bedroom? Or not as much as you’d like?

[Anonymous]

We’ve only been dating for four months but hell yes.

[Anonymous]

No. He's asexual and hasn't been remotely interested in sex for over 15 years. Plenty of sex at the beginning, but I think he did it just because he thought he had to. It's fine, I don't mind -- he's great otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’ve only been dating for four months but hell yes.

Age?

[Anonymous]

I’m happy!🤗

[Anonymous]

Wife speaking and sometimes dh is and other times I feel like he's just having sex with me because I initiated and he didn't want to tell me no and hurt my feelings. On days it's good its good but the other times he's a taker and doesn't reciprocate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife speaking and sometimes dh is and other times I feel like he's just having sex with me because I initiated and he didn't want to tell me no and hurt my feelings. On days it's good its good but the other times he's a taker and doesn't reciprocate.

+1, I’m a DW who always initiates but DH always reciprocates even if he doesn’t seem enthusiastic. I think he doesn’t want to hurt my feelings but he has always made sure I finish 100% of the time.

[Anonymous]

Mine isn’t. It bothered me initially but I learned over time he doesn’t get enthusiastic about much; it’s just not how he expresses. We have a great sex life and I’ve learned to adapt to his laid back nature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’ve only been dating for four months but hell yes.

Age?

I’m a 42 year old guy. She’s 49.

[Anonymous]

Very. Been together for 15 years. He keeps it very fresh. Puts effort and forethought into pleasing me. The bondage session we had last week was a top 3 or 4 of all time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but not animated way or overdoing it. It is always happy to see me and ready to go.
We don't live together and meet about once a week.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we are enthusiastic in the bedroom. Been married 23 years and we are in our late 50s. OK, we're not enthusiastic every single time, but fairly often.

[Anonymous]

No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

In a long term marriage, don’t let the lofty bar of Enthusiasm prevent regular enjoyable sex with the Happily willing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. We don't need some performative side show to enjoy it.

Is that what you think enthusiasm in the bedroom means?