Got together with HS friends and it was flat and forced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad. We have dinner every Thanksgiving weekend and are all in close touch throughout the year. I'm sort of the linchpin organizer. This year it felt low energy and forced, we ate quickly and everyone went their separate ways with no plans to meet up at Christmas as in years prior. It felt weird and off. I always relished having this legacy friend group but maybe I am
not so lucky. 😔

These are strange times. No one wants to say anything for fear of offending others. Especially among long-term close friends, no one wants to get cancelled from the group.

So it is better to be flat and non-offensive.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes it’s hard to engage in conversation in a group setting because you worry about saying the wrong thing and offending someone.

I find myself avoiding so many topics that it’s hard to keep the conversation going.

I’m not even referring solely to politics.

You can’t talk about kids or travel because it’s bragging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened to me recently with a long-loved group of friends. I think we all felt it.

If you want to keep this up, maybe plan an activity next year instead of dinner? Canvas painting with wine, axe-throwing, etc. That way there's something to talk about it. It's okay to have an off year. Doesn't mean it's all over.

An invent involving axe-throwing, skeet shooting, wall climbing, drag racing, & wine tasting would seem to be a good bet to revive your stale social events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of you peaked in high school and just now realize it. Stop trying to relive the glory days and move on!

Sounds like something a bitter loner would say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad. We have dinner every Thanksgiving weekend and are all in close touch throughout the year. I'm sort of the linchpin organizer. This year it felt low energy and forced, we ate quickly and everyone went their separate ways with no plans to meet up at Christmas as in years prior. It felt weird and off. I always relished having this legacy friend group but maybe I am
not so lucky. 😔

I assume this was probably telegraphed in a group chat and maybe you didn't pick up on it? The group has run its course. If you're REALLY friends with 1 or 2 of them, consider yourself lucky. Most people still talk to literally 0 friends from high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad. We have dinner every Thanksgiving weekend and are all in close touch throughout the year. I'm sort of the linchpin organizer. This year it felt low energy and forced, we ate quickly and everyone went their separate ways with no plans to meet up at Christmas as in years prior. It felt weird and off. I always relished having this legacy friend group but maybe I am
not so lucky. 😔

I assume this was probably telegraphed in a group chat and maybe you didn't pick up on it? The group has run its course. If you're REALLY friends with 1 or 2 of them, consider yourself lucky. Most people still talk to literally 0 friends from high school.

Not necessarily. There could be many reasons. Maybe several used to drink and don’t now for various reasons, so they’re less fun. Or they have family obligations and illnesses on their mind. That happened in my friend group. I still appreciate their friendship but the get togethers are definitely lower energy now in our mid 40s.