Is this a microaggression?

[Anonymous]

It's a silly label. Some people are rude, some are clueless, some are insensitive, some are obnoxious, and none of that necessarily has anything to do with being "aggressive" in either a micro or a macro sense. If someone is a jerk, that's their personality. Just avoid them or learn to deal with them; the world is full of people who display bad behavior. Slapping a fashionable label on it doesn't mean it's anything new.

[Anonymous]

Does your employer have a designated safe space or counselor you can talk to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP,

I think it's a microagression.

However, I graduate college in the early 1990s with a BA degree in English. My entire career has been spent in high tech fields. I've managed to earn a doctorate, and I've had a very long career.

I get so tired of seeing job descriptions that require a tech degree. Of course, that eliminates most women, because most women don't earn tech degrees. It's like jobs that require prior military experience eliminates most women, because most women are not prior military.

What? Most men don’t have tech degrees or military experience, either.

She’s had a long career, obviously speaking of a different era. Plenty of women in military and tech now

[Anonymous]

Let me guess... You were an English major?

[Anonymous]

Microaggression is a term used for commonplace verbal, behavioral or environmental slights, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative attitudes toward stigmatized or culturally marginalized groups.


I’d say yes. It happens to teachers, nurses, admin assistants, SAHMs, Nepo babies, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess... You were an English major?

Perfect. Passive aggressive but makes you feel attacked/ like you need to defend yourself.

[Anonymous]

RTO is a trigger word

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Microaggression is a term used for commonplace verbal, behavioral or environmental slights, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative attitudes toward stigmatized or culturally marginalized groups.


I’d say yes. It happens to teachers, nurses, admin assistants, SAHMs, Nepo babies, etc

Thank you for posting this. I'm OP and just wanted to know the correct way to describe this micro- or passive-aggressive comment that came from a supervisor. Ignoring it is not an option, but I would like to know what to call it so that I can address it. This supervisor is dense and probably doesn't realize how offensive the comment was, but since it affects my salary and position in my company, I need to calmly and accurately set the record straight. However, I don't know if I can call myself -- a woman in STEM -- stigmatized since I work with a number of other women in a similar role.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Microaggression is a term used for commonplace verbal, behavioral or environmental slights, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative attitudes toward stigmatized or culturally marginalized groups.


I’d say yes. It happens to teachers, nurses, admin assistants, SAHMs, Nepo babies, etc

Gosh, thank you for sticking up for the nepo babies. They're truly a stigmatized and culturally marginalized group who needs your defense.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure what the concept of “microaggression” would be doing here, OP? It’s not a legal term. To constitute legally actionable discrimination, harassment has to be “severe or pervasive.” If the comment was derogatory, it was derogatory. I get the feeling that people think a “microaggression” is somehow a worse offense because it has a trendy label.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Microaggression is a term used for commonplace verbal, behavioral or environmental slights, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative attitudes toward stigmatized or culturally marginalized groups.


I’d say yes. It happens to teachers, nurses, admin assistants, SAHMs, Nepo babies, etc

what is an “environmental” slight?

[Anonymous]

“microaggression” is a fairly toxic concept that allows an attack on someone for engaging in innocent conduct that is subjectively intepreted as a slight or insult. An offhand comment (“where are you from?”) becomes an act of deliberate aggression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP,

I think it's a microagression.

However, I graduate college in the early 1990s with a BA degree in English. My entire career has been spent in high tech fields. I've managed to earn a doctorate, and I've had a very long career.

I get so tired of seeing job descriptions that require a tech degree. Of course, that eliminates most women, because most women don't earn tech degrees. It's like jobs that require prior military experience eliminates most women, because most women are not prior military.

What? Most men don’t have tech degrees or military experience, either.

Sigh. Shall I type slower for you?

Far MORE men have military service backgrounds and until very recently, far MORE men had tech degrees than women (and even now, it will take time to catch up), therefore those positions are available to far MORE men than women.

Have you caught up now? DP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

Didn’t even need to read your post. There is no such thing as a microsggression. If you are not sure whether or not to be offended, then don’t be.

Oh, you’re dumb. Sorry for your family and any friends you may have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself OP

There is no such thing as a micro- aggression.

There are two of you dumb people.

Astonishing.