What is my daughter looking for when she tells me this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is making a roundabout comment in the differences in your bodies. You have boobs; she does not. Pluses and minuses to both. She may be trying to open the door to a deeper conversation with her mother about these issues

I think this is it. I’d find a way to get her to talk somehow. When she says I’m not wearing a bra, say something like, And how does it feel? Or And how is it working for you? And then I think you need to offer something like, Well, probably obviously I am wearing one and it’s heavily architected .. something like that.

[Anonymous]

I find it curious that you think your daughters statement has anything to do with you. That’s where your answer lies.

[Anonymous]

She is either trying to shock/ get attention or she is comforting herself out loud: Mum is heavier and busty and has adult responsibilities. I am young,carefree, petite and small- breasted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it curious that you think your daughters statement has anything to do with you. That’s where your answer lies.

Yes that's what OP wrote in the post.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cooperative_principle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

She is either trying to shock/ get attention or she is comforting herself out loud: Mum is heavier and busty and has adult responsibilities. I am young,carefree, petite and small- breasted.

I've learned a lot slant, mostly bird related, but I've never heard anyone call my breasts "adult responsibilities".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is 20, almost 21. In HS she wore bras. I think she had three? Covid happened during the last two years of HS, and at some point during that she stopped wearing bras. She always wears multiple layers and/or a thick shirt. She has a small frame, it's her body, I don't care. But almost every time I see her, she tells me she's not wearing a bra. A couple of times I have offered to take her to get one/some, and she always says no. I suggested a bralette, which is much looser than a bra and she doesn't want it. But she keeps telling me she's not wearing a bra every time we get together. What response does she want from me? I could knock your eye out if I turn too fast with how huge my boobs are so always wear a bra. Does she want me to say "I wish I could be like you and not wear one"? I've said "okay", offered to buy her one, nodded. I don't know what response she wants. Any ideas?

Maybe she's telling everyone because she wants to turn heads

[Anonymous]

Stop suggesting bras.

Just say, you’re so lucky bras are so uncomfortable

[Anonymous]

Just reply, “Okay. If we’re doing confessions, I’m not wearing underwear because I have a yeast infection, but I wasn’t honestly going to just announce it . . .”

[Anonymous]

I'd just laugh and say I'm not either. And no underwear either.

Personally I haven't worn a bra in over 25 years. The free the tas tas movement was the best !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is 20, almost 21. In HS she wore bras. I think she had three? Covid happened during the last two years of HS, and at some point during that she stopped wearing bras. She always wears multiple layers and/or a thick shirt. She has a small frame, it's her body, I don't care. But almost every time I see her, she tells me she's not wearing a bra. A couple of times I have offered to take her to get one/some, and she always says no. I suggested a bralette, which is much looser than a bra and she doesn't want it. But she keeps telling me she's not wearing a bra every time we get together. What response does she want from me? I could knock your eye out if I turn too fast with how huge my boobs are so always wear a bra. Does she want me to say "I wish I could be like you and not wear one"? I've said "okay", offered to buy her one, nodded. I don't know what response she wants. Any ideas?

"Why do you keep telling me you're not wearing a bra? Honestly, I don't really care but if there is something else you're trying to tell me, I thought I'd ask."

Maybe she doesn't realize she's being weird. And, frankly, it is weird.

[Anonymous]

i'd say she feels good about not having to wear the torture device many of us can't go without. Good for her. Also you're her mother, who else is she going to say that to? Be happy she feels comfortable and free around you, and without a bra. She keeps bringing it up because you don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i'd say she feels good about not having to wear the torture device many of us can't go without. Good for her. Also you're her mother, who else is she going to say that to? Be happy she feels comfortable and free around you, and without a bra. She keeps bringing it up because you don't get it.

But why does mom or anyone else for that matter need to "get it"?

[Anonymous]

I think she wants to know if people can tell. Mom will be honest even if others lie. Before my DD’s boob job, I couldn’t tell she was bra less. After her boob job, they look natural but she has to wear a bra.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it curious that you think your daughters statement has anything to do with you. That’s where your answer lies.

Come on.

It is weird of the kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i'd say she feels good about not having to wear the torture device many of us can't go without. Good for her. Also you're her mother, who else is she going to say that to? Be happy she feels comfortable and free around you, and without a bra. She keeps bringing it up because you don't get it.

But why does mom or anyone else for that matter need to "get it"?

Why does anyone else need to put up with it?