Would you say anything? Teen on TikTok

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all?

Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny.

MYOB.

[Anonymous]

TikTok is good for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all?

Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny.

MYOB.

It's not the clothes. It's the comments from older males who are following a teenage girl on social media.

[Anonymous]

They either don't know and don't care or know and don't care. But in the end they don't care because anyone with 5 brain cells can figure out Tik Tok is a dumpster fire for teen girls and would be paying attention themselves.

MYOB. Big time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all?

Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny.

MYOB.

Time and place for everything.
My boss asks for social media profiles of candidates and requires a thorough review of postings. An incidental shot snapped on the beach probably okay but he sure as heck would overrule any hiring of someone who regularly posts for the general public videos of themselves in bathing suits or underwear, even if it was several years in the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS has a friend, a popular girl at school. Not a gf, but a friend, someone to talk to during lunch, they have a few classes together. He showed me her TikTok and I am concerned. She is barely dressed. Skimpy doesn't even describe it. I also see comments on her account from grown men, not always appropriate. This girl is 15! I run into her mother on occasion. Should I say anything to her?

Skimpy on Tik Tok = bikini or lingerie.
It's not the same thing as skimpy in real life.
Teens get that, but their parents do not.

I know you're concerned, but you having a conversation with her mother isn't going to go over well.

really? it's so very different, huh? after all, the former is just there for everyone to see. not all teens "get that", you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all? Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny .MYOB.

Time and place for everything.
My boss asks for social media profiles of candidates and requires a thorough review of postings. An incidental shot snapped on the beach probably okay but he sure as heck would overrule any hiring of someone who regularly posts for the general public videos of themselves in bathing suits or underwear, even if it was several years in the past.

What would your boss do with someone like me, whose social media accounts are locked down super tight and inaccessible to the general public?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all? Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny .MYOB.

Time and place for everything.
My boss asks for social media profiles of candidates and requires a thorough review of postings. An incidental shot snapped on the beach probably okay but he sure as heck would overrule any hiring of someone who regularly posts for the general public videos of themselves in bathing suits or underwear, even if it was several years in the past.

What would your boss do with someone like me, whose social media accounts are locked down super tight and inaccessible to the general public?

Depends on the employer but there are some employers in this area who require you share what you post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

It's getting to be pretty bad. Sports bra and teeny shorts. It's not as much the clothes, I get it, she is experimenting. It's the comments from seemingly older men.

Realistically if one has an open account and thousands of followers it's not practical to police the comments section. Is she even responding to the comments?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all?

Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny.

MYOB.

Time and place for everything.
My boss asks for social media profiles of candidates and requires a thorough review of postings. An incidental shot snapped on the beach probably okay but he sure as heck would overrule any hiring of someone who regularly posts for the general public videos of themselves in bathing suits or underwear, even if it was several years in the past.

Does anyone else find this dystopian?

No effing way I would ever consider working for an employer who felt they had the right to be so intrusive in my private life. Does your boss inquire as to people’s preferred sexual positions as well?

[Anonymous]

Of course!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all?

Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny.

MYOB.

It's not the clothes. It's the comments from older males who are following a teenage girl on social media.

So? Just ignore them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS has a friend, a popular girl at school. Not a gf, but a friend, someone to talk to during lunch, they have a few classes together. He showed me her TikTok and I am concerned. She is barely dressed. Skimpy doesn't even describe it. I also see comments on her account from grown men, not always appropriate. This girl is 15! I run into her mother on occasion. Should I say anything to her?

If she’s wearing a bathing suit, what’s the problem?

You sound old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

It's getting to be pretty bad. Sports bra and teeny shorts. It's not as much the clothes, I get it, she is experimenting. It's the comments from seemingly older men.

That's... normal wear for social media, OP. Have you been loving under a rock? And yes, there will be comments. The girls apparently have decided that they don't mind.

You don't have daughters? My teen daughter dresses "conservatively" (normally), but there lots of girls in her school doing the same thing. Social media exposes all kids to very inappropriate comments, even those who don't post pics like that, because they're ALL on some type of channel that feeds them social commentary. I'm not sure how you could have missed all that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

Why is it bad at all?

Teens can wear bikinis at the pool and beach, granny.

MYOB.

It's not the clothes. It's the comments from older males who are following a teenage girl on social media.

So? Just ignore them.

PP doesn’t realize the kids get off on the comments about how gorgeous they are, how pretty, hot, etc. That is why they post it, for the dopamine hit. They literally don’t care if it is 13 year boy that wrote it, a creppy 40 year old man, or a 16 year old female classmate.