Would you say anything? Teen on TikTok

[Anonymous]

DS has a friend, a popular girl at school. Not a gf, but a friend, someone to talk to during lunch, they have a few classes together. He showed me her TikTok and I am concerned. She is barely dressed. Skimpy doesn't even describe it. I also see comments on her account from grown men, not always appropriate. This girl is 15! I run into her mother on occasion. Should I say anything to her?

[Anonymous]

How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

[Anonymous]

Noooo. Definitely MYOB.

[Anonymous]

If I was her mom, I would want to know, but there’s a fair chance she already knows. Either way, tell your son to stay away from her tik tok and not to comment on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS has a friend, a popular girl at school. Not a gf, but a friend, someone to talk to during lunch, they have a few classes together. He showed me her TikTok and I am concerned. She is barely dressed. Skimpy doesn't even describe it. I also see comments on her account from grown men, not always appropriate. This girl is 15! I run into her mother on occasion. Should I say anything to her?

Skimpy on Tik Tok = bikini or lingerie.
It's not the same thing as skimpy in real life.
Teens get that, but their parents do not.

I know you're concerned, but you having a conversation with her mother isn't going to go over well.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

MYOB

[Anonymous]

No, not for being dressed like that.

[Anonymous]

I would just casually mention the TikTok to the mom. Like "I heard Larla has a lot of followers! Does she enjoy making content?"

That way if mom is aware and doesn't mind, you haven't offended her, but if she has no idea what you're mean, you can direct her to it.

[Anonymous]

Why are you cockblocking your own son?

[Anonymous]

OMG, no. Stop judging what young women are wearing. If you couldn't see breasts or genitals, which you couldn't, MYOB.

[Anonymous]

I would want to say some thing, but I wouldn’t say anything. You never know it’s acceptable to other families. Personally, I would not allow my daughter to do anything skimpy or sexual on TikTok so I would want to know. But I recognize I’m in the minority on this.

[Anonymous]

Get your kid OFF tick tock before you start throwing stones for bad parenting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How bad is it? Many girls and young women dress skimpily on social media, to no ill effect as far as I can see.

If it's to the point where it might hurt her academic and professional career, I think it's your son who should say it. Coming from someone's mother, she'll dismiss you out of hand. But if it comes from a peer and someone she trusts to have her best interests at heart, particularly a boy... she might take it to heart. And the argument shouldn't be a moral one. It should be kept strictly as a college apps / internship /internet is forever, sort of discussion.

It's getting to be pretty bad. Sports bra and teeny shorts. It's not as much the clothes, I get it, she is experimenting. It's the comments from seemingly older men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just casually mention the TikTok to the mom. Like "I heard Larla has a lot of followers! Does she enjoy making content?"

That way if mom is aware and doesn't mind, you haven't offended her, but if she has no idea what you're mean, you can direct her to it.

Dude, MYOFB

If the mom isn’t involved in her tik tok account, that doesn’t mean you should be.

It sounds like she has a public account so her mom can easily see