Strange behaviors

[Anonymous]

So, are YOU this person, OP?

Because you are exhibiting the same cagey attitude. You refuse to say exactly what you asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like to share too much about myself with most people. First of all, it's really none of their business. FWIW, I haven't had someone ask me my favorite color since I was 10 years old. Most people are just trying to get info to gossip about. Same with the ordering. Usually I try to order first so I don't let others influence my choice but sometimes I honestly cannot decide and want to see what others are ordering.

Okay, so if your default is "most people are just trying to get info to gossip about" - that is how you treat other people, because you think this, and you think other people do also?

ie: because your default is that people are gossips, like you, then it must be true?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't like you.

I thought this originally, but then asked around, and this behavior is also shown with others. So no, not just me.

PP again. OMG, just stop!

Well, the situation warrants this person having a baseline ability to interact with other humans. Why so defensive?

Sounds like she doesn’t feel the need to interact with you, at least not on a personal level. Why are you pushing it? Just leave her alone and stop gossiping about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't like you.

I thought this originally, but then asked around, and this behavior is also shown with others. So no, not just me.

PP again. OMG, just stop!

Well, the situation warrants this person having a baseline ability to interact with other humans. Why so defensive?

Sounds like she doesn’t feel the need to interact with you, at least not on a personal level. Why are you pushing it? Just leave her alone and stop gossiping about her.

No one is gossiping - why would you and that person think so? Is that how you treat people, so you assume that others do also??

Would you answer "I don't know" to a coworker, and refuse to play nice with a coworker that needs work information, that you were hired to transmit? Do you get fired from all of your jobs? Interesting! Why? Are you difficult in the day to day, or do only certain types of people set you off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't like you.

I thought this originally, but then asked around, and this behavior is also shown with others. So no, not just me.

PP again. OMG, just stop!

Well, the situation warrants this person having a baseline ability to interact with other humans. Why so defensive?

Sounds like she doesn’t feel the need to interact with you, at least not on a personal level. Why are you pushing it? Just leave her alone and stop gossiping about her.

No one is gossiping - why would you and that person think so? Is that how you treat people, so you assume that others do also??

Would you answer "I don't know" to a coworker, and refuse to play nice with a coworker that needs work information, that you were hired to transmit? Do you get fired from all of your jobs? Interesting! Why? Are you difficult in the day to day, or do only certain types of people set you off?

What are you talking about. All of the examples in the OP were not work related. Get your story straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't like you.

I thought this originally, but then asked around, and this behavior is also shown with others. So no, not just me.

PP again. OMG, just stop!

Well, the situation warrants this person having a baseline ability to interact with other humans. Why so defensive?

Sounds like she doesn’t feel the need to interact with you, at least not on a personal level. Why are you pushing it? Just leave her alone and stop gossiping about her.

No one is gossiping - why would you and that person think so? Is that how you treat people, so you assume that others do also??

Would you answer "I don't know" to a coworker, and refuse to play nice with a coworker that needs work information, that you were hired to transmit? Do you get fired from all of your jobs? Interesting! Why? Are you difficult in the day to day, or do only certain types of people set you off?

What are you talking about. All of the examples in the OP were not work related. Get your story straight.

So the petulant behavior only applies in certain settings? You can control it at work? Or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't like you.

I thought this originally, but then asked around, and this behavior is also shown with others. So no, not just me.

PP again. OMG, just stop!

Well, the situation warrants this person having a baseline ability to interact with other humans. Why so defensive?

Sounds like she doesn’t feel the need to interact with you, at least not on a personal level. Why are you pushing it? Just leave her alone and stop gossiping about her.

No one is gossiping - why would you and that person think so? Is that how you treat people, so you assume that others do also??

Would you answer "I don't know" to a coworker, and refuse to play nice with a coworker that needs work information, that you were hired to transmit? Do you get fired from all of your jobs? Interesting! Why? Are you difficult in the day to day, or do only certain types of people set you off?

You are literally gossiping about her with your 'asking around'. You're on here gossiping about her. You, ma'am, are a busybody

[Anonymous]

I worked with the public for 30+ years listening to a lot of different people and came to the conclusion that many, many people are mustrustful of others and a lot more people than I ever realized are paranoid: they think the government, old boy/girlfriends, random people are watching, listening to or tracking them through the air, the internet, etc. They make up meaningful coincidences where others would not see them. It may be if you ask their favorite color that it just so happens to correspond to some other recent event that together portends something bad happening. (Similarly, I think there are people who see good fortune for themselves due to seeing coincidences in their favor--both are magical thinking.)

You can never tell who will act this way until they reveal it and they are people who are mostly functional, so you might meet them at work, as fellow parents, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked with the public for 30+ years listening to a lot of different people and came to the conclusion that many, many people are mustrustful of others and a lot more people than I ever realized are paranoid: they think the government, old boy/girlfriends, random people are watching, listening to or tracking them through the air, the internet, etc. They make up meaningful coincidences where others would not see them. It may be if you ask their favorite color that it just so happens to correspond to some other recent event that together portends something bad happening. (Similarly, I think there are people who see good fortune for themselves due to seeing coincidences in their favor--both are magical thinking.)

You can never tell who will act this way until they reveal it and they are people who are mostly functional, so you might meet them at work, as fellow parents, etc.

This makes sense. I also found this example of how that kind of behvior can be related to a trauma, of sorts:

https://www.reddit.com/r/infj/comments/4zjhyi/does_anyone_else_feel_the_need_to_be_sneaky_or/

[Anonymous]

I think for this reason, "ice breakers" before meetings where people reveal something personal create problems and should probably be done away with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked with the public for 30+ years listening to a lot of different people and came to the conclusion that many, many people are mustrustful of others and a lot more people than I ever realized are paranoid: they think the government, old boy/girlfriends, random people are watching, listening to or tracking them through the air, the internet, etc. They make up meaningful coincidences where others would not see them. It may be if you ask their favorite color that it just so happens to correspond to some other recent event that together portends something bad happening. (Similarly, I think there are people who see good fortune for themselves due to seeing coincidences in their favor--both are magical thinking.)

You can never tell who will act this way until they reveal it and they are people who are mostly functional, so you might meet them at work, as fellow parents, etc.

This makes sense. I also found this example of how that kind of behvior can be related to a trauma, of sorts:

https://www.reddit.com/r/infj/comments/4zjhyi/does_anyone_else_feel_the_need_to_be_sneaky_or/

Interesting. Lack of privacy and the need for it seems valid. I understand this. I grew up with lots of siblings and wanted privacy and more solitude in my adult life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think for this reason, "ice breakers" before meetings where people reveal something personal create problems and should probably be done away with.

Can you explain why icebreakers should be done away with?

Is this a sneaky person thing, an introvert thing, or something else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I worked with the public for 30+ years listening to a lot of different people and came to the conclusion that many, many people are mustrustful of others and a lot more people than I ever realized are paranoid: they think the government, old boy/girlfriends, random people are watching, listening to or tracking them through the air, the internet, etc. They make up meaningful coincidences where others would not see them. It may be if you ask their favorite color that it just so happens to correspond to some other recent event that together portends something bad happening. (Similarly, I think there are people who see good fortune for themselves due to seeing coincidences in their favor--both are magical thinking.)

You can never tell who will act this way until they reveal it and they are people who are mostly functional, so you might meet them at work, as fellow parents, etc.

This makes sense. I also found this example of how that kind of behvior can be related to a trauma, of sorts:

https://www.reddit.com/r/infj/comments/4zjhyi/does_anyone_else_feel_the_need_to_be_sneaky_or/

Interesting. Lack of privacy and the need for it seems valid. I understand this. I grew up with lots of siblings and wanted privacy and more solitude in my adult life.

As a consequence, do you think that people are generally "out to get you"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think for this reason, "ice breakers" before meetings where people reveal something personal create problems and should probably be done away with.

I hate these, and "team building exercises," with a white-hot passion and the person you're gossiping about probably does, too. Although I would either make something up or say, "None of your business," instead of saying, "I don't know."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like to share too much about myself with most people. First of all, it's really none of their business. FWIW, I haven't had someone ask me my favorite color since I was 10 years old. Most people are just trying to get info to gossip about. Same with the ordering. Usually I try to order first so I don't let others influence my choice but sometimes I honestly cannot decide and want to see what others are ordering.

Are you sure you are not paranoid?