senior DD suddenly stopped talking about a particular college

[Anonymous]

My kid has loved and then dumped the same school.

And we have swag because several give free things out during visits: shirts, water bottles, etc.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she just liked a boy (or girl) who wanted to attend that college.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe she changed her mind. Many kids do during senior year.

+1. I was sure where I was going for a long time and suddenly changed my mind in spring of senior year. Nothing in OP’s post is unusual except throwing away a good water bottle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have a ton of swag for one college before she even got in? Did you pump her up about it?

Admissions gives this kind of thing during visits.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree not to mention bottle but to ask generally. Could be a higher ranking classmate is applying ED and she’s feeling discouraged. Or any number of reasons. It feels sad though so I’d definitely find a good moment to listen.

NP. It has to be this. ED or athletic recruit or both.

[Anonymous]

It's worth asking, just in case someone has convinced her that she wouldn't get in.

[Anonymous]

Maybe school has a dismal 2-6 record in football ?

[Anonymous]

There was a school my DD was very interested and then a classmate who she really dislikes just committed there for a sport. That college has gone way down on the list. I can't say I blame her for not wanting to be around this person for another 4 years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a school my DD was very interested and then a classmate who she really dislikes just committed there for a sport. That college has gone way down on the list. I can't say I blame her for not wanting to be around this person for another 4 years!

Same with my DS, however, as I told him, no matter how small a school is it is very possible to go four years with out ever seeing that person. A very close friend and I went to the same very small college and rarely saw each other unless we explicitly made plans to do so.

[Anonymous]

This happened with my DD - soured on the school she had wanted to attend for a year after she had applied ED. In her case, it was because a classmate insulted the school to her. DD was in a terrible place emotionally/mentally and could not shake off the mean comments.

She got in to the school ED so had no choice but to attend. A year+ in, she still doesn't love it, but she likes some things and those were the things she initially liked about it (size, academics, peer group).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a school my DD was very interested and then a classmate who she really dislikes just committed there for a sport. That college has gone way down on the list. I can't say I blame her for not wanting to be around this person for another 4 years!

This is what I was going to say. No matter how smart they are, their little brains can be so immature. My kid would definitely pick a new favorite if someone she really didn't like was going there. (Or, I had the same thought as someone else ... maybe she heard of a bunch of really top students all applying there and lost heart.)

I'm sure she will find a great fit, but let us know if you figure it out!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happened with my DD - soured on the school she had wanted to attend for a year after she had applied ED. In her case, it was because a classmate insulted the school to her. DD was in a terrible place emotionally/mentally and could not shake off the mean comments.

She got in to the school ED so had no choice but to attend. A year+ in, she still doesn't love it, but she likes some things and those were the things she initially liked about it (size, academics, peer group).

That's really tough. Kids can be so mean.

[Anonymous]

ASK HER?!?

[Anonymous]

Sounds healthy to me. It's one thing to openly focus on one dream school early in HS, but once everyone's in the midst of applying no need to be so explicit, even if it's still the dream. If nothing else keep things closer to the breast to avoid constant haranguing, but even ignoring everyone else, she needs to be open to where ever the process takes her. Which, may not be the water bottle school.

[Anonymous]

Kids are kind of impetuous and dumb at that age. (All of them! I am not discriminating!) It could be a 60 second TikTok made her feel like it wouldn't be cool to go there and then, boom, months of fangirling over the place are dismantled in a moment. I would not be particularly concerned.

I'd be upset at throwing away a perfectly good water bottle, though.