senior DD suddenly stopped talking about a particular college
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Anonymous
| Throughout college, she's casually been interested in a particular school. It's a reach for her, but not super selective. Has a few t-shirts, stickers, things like that. Last week I found the water bottle she bought during a visit this summer in the trash, and it made me realize I hadn't seen her wearing the shirts lately, either. Is this normal application stress, or should I be worried? |
Anonymous
WUT? |
Anonymous
High school! Sorry. |
Anonymous
I'm assuming OP meant throughout high school. I would feel vaguely concerned and just say something more generally like "Applying to colleges can be exciting but really stressful, how is the whole process going for you? -- or how are you feeling through all of this?" I wouldn't reference the water bottle, just provide a space to talk about what this experience is like. |
Anonymous
| I agree not to mention bottle but to ask generally. Could be a higher ranking classmate is applying ED and she’s feeling discouraged. Or any number of reasons. It feels sad though so I’d definitely find a good moment to listen. |
Anonymous
This is what I'm feeling, yes. Will probably use PP's idea and bring it up generally. |
Anonymous
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I would be more concerned if my kid started gathering and wearing swag from a college she had not been offered a place in.
That's just asking for disappointment. You should be glad she's over it. |
Anonymous
And your idea, too! Geez, I am not comprehending well today. |
Anonymous
| I'd be like Why is a perfectly good water bottle in the trash? But, my kids know I'm a practical mom! |
Anonymous
I would bring up the bottle as a reason for asking and talking about it. I wouldn’t be stressed out about it but I see no reason not to bring up the bottle. |
Anonymous
| Maybe she changed her mind. Many kids do during senior year. |
Anonymous
| Yes, it’s no big deal. She soured on it for some reason - whatever it is, it’s her choice. If you have some sort of attachment to the school, then deal with your own feelings over DCs loss of interest. But I wouldn’t try to talk her back into it, u less it’s some special case (ie Yale & you & DH & parents are all alums). |
Anonymous
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Is it a rolling admissions school? Is it possible that she’s already heard and been denied? I know my DD has already heard from several rolling admissions schools, so that would be my first thought.
If not, then something has soured her to the school and a non-threatening conversation should clear it up. |
Anonymous
| Maybe the school is too expensive? Maybe her GC told your DD this school is beyond her reach? OP, talk to your daughter. |
Anonymous
| Why do you have a ton of swag for one college before she even got in? Did you pump her up about it? |