Teen daughter - how would you respond? “She’s striking.”

[Anonymous]

Just as I suspected - never a good idea to comment on looks beyond “love your outfit”

[Anonymous]

Think how you would feel if your husband described a woman as striking. That would mean he was struck by her appearance, that she was a literal head turner. So getting into a discussion about head-turning looks is somewhat fraught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think how you would feel if your husband described a woman as striking. That would mean he was struck by her appearance, that she was a literal head turner. So getting into a discussion about head-turning looks is somewhat fraught.

Jeez the insecurity. You can’t admit there are women out there that are beautiful? Even more beautiful than you?

Yes, my husband and I both comment when we see a woman who is unbelievably gorgeous.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have responded by saying that the reason I find other girl striking is the rare combination of her skin color and light eyes or whatever it is that led to the comment. And I would remind her that parents can’t tell if their kid is beautiful because they lack objectivity.

What??? No!

Of course you tell your kid that they are striking.

[Anonymous]

I would’ve said, I would describe you as beautiful. Because your hair is gorgeous and your bone structure is beautiful.

I described this girl, striking because the color of her eyes are alluring.

I mean, truthfully, how would you describe your daughter?

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Anonymous wrote:Think how you would feel if your husband described a woman as striking. That would mean he was struck by her appearance, that she was a literal head turner. So getting into a discussion about head-turning looks is somewhat fraught.

???

I don’t agree with this. “Striking” is pretty much describing looks that are attention-grabbing. I find some women striking, but am not attracted to them, it’s simply an aesthetic judgement. I don’t expect my husband to go blind because we married. On the other hand, if he was fantasizing about someone (whether or not he considered them striking), that I would find objectionable.

[Anonymous]

I am white and have been described as striking because I am tall and have very large doe eyes and olive skin. I am not conventionally beautiful.

I get what you mean, OP, and it isn’t racist.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have responded by saying that the reason I find other girl striking is the rare combination of her skin color and light eyes or whatever it is that led to the comment. And I would remind her that parents can’t tell if their kid is beautiful because they lack objectivity.

What??? No!

Of course you tell your kid that they are striking.

No you don't not if it's true. You can compliment their features that you like but striking is striking. Striking does not describe everyone, by definition.

[Anonymous]

“You are the most beautiful person in the world to me and always will be!”

That’s all I would say

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OP here:

I said she was not striking. I said she’s beautiful but striking is different from beauty. I told her I found this woman striking https://www.byrdie.com/exclusive-getting-ready-with-winnie-harlow-5185215 but that the word is subjective and people may not agree on who is striking. We googled others and found a woman’s picture online who was labeled as striking but neither of us thought she was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“You are the most beautiful person in the world to me and always will be!”

That’s all I would say

Kinda odd to say this to an almost-adult. 12? Sure

[Anonymous]

Just say you are very pretty too. And say that more importantly you are generous and smart or courageous and creative or some other appropriate compliment that is not about looks.

[Anonymous]

"You know I know you're beautiful!!"

[Anonymous]

I think my DD is striking because she has an unusual beauty with giant green eyes, long lashes and dark curly hair. She feels that she is ugly but I think she’s striking and just unconventional in that she doesn’t have kind of classic features, long blonde hair etc.

Some people are striking, others are classically beautiful.

[Anonymous]

OP, your daughter isn't striking, because you've had years to acclimate yourself.

Now stop commenting on people's appearance so much, unless that's your daughter's best source of value to the world.