Anonymous wrote:These people are exhausting.
I have encountered other people like this, with enormously messy private lives due to their extreme narcissism and arrogance (which is what causes BS like this), but because they've been to therapy and are able to speak about their private drama with something resembling detachment or emotional maturity, they think everyone WANTS to hear about it. But at the end of the day, they are just people who couldn't stay faithful, or thought an open marriage could work when it didn't, or put their own needs before their kids, or whatever. Like they just messed up in one or more of the basic ways that people mess up all the time. Being able to talk about it in way that sounds intellectual or evolved doesn't really change that. Maybe it makes it easier for them to handle, if so, great. Discuss it with your therapist. But other people don't want to hear about your messed up private life. Maybe people are interested at first for salacious reasons, so they can gloat or gossip or whatever. But eventually... it's just sad. Go deal with it privately, you can stop involving the rest of the world in this depressing saga.
Would be more refreshing if people could acknowledge this instead of saying crap like I feel heard or owning my truth or blaming society. Don’t present your BS as enlightenment especially when wrapped in a toxic combination of addiction, depression, suicide ideation, drug use, infidelity and narcissism.
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