WWYD and how to explain this to DS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Name the program.

OP can’t as it is a made up story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Name the program.

OP can’t as it is a made up story

Then hit the Report button in the corner and ask Jeff to look at it. He’ll take it down if it’s a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS has been with the same lacrosse team for two years and it is a mostly white team. It's a strong team but not competitive on a national level. The kids are teens and DS does not have any ambitions to play in college but I think a few others might. Last week DS found out that some of teammates were harassing one of the other players who is not white. They were talking about it in a chat that DS was on and DS showed them to us. It was really bad.

DS is not close friends with this player but is friendly with and likes and respects him. Someone apparently forwarded the messages to the non-white players' parents because the family messaged us and a few other families letting us know they were pulling their player off the team and due to racial harassment. They explained they had talked to the coach, who is white, and the coach did not seem to care and said something about "boys will be boys" and then said something about how "you people" make a big deal out of nothing. DH tried to talk to the coach after practice the next day and said something similar to DH about "those people."

DH have talked and we are planning to pull DS from the team. We tried to talk to the other parents but they seem to care more about their child's sports and won't leave the team. We are not in the DMV but in an area south so it should not have been surprising but it was.

What would you have done? What should we say to DS to make him understand why this is important?

Name the program

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Report the coach to the state governing authority. He should not be allowed around kids.

“Team is not competitive at the national level” = club team

What “state governing authority” is there for boys club lax teams? Club lax is the Wild West.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Report the coach to the state governing authority. He should not be allowed around kids.

“Team is not competitive at the national level” = club team

What “state governing authority” is there for boys club lax teams? Club lax is the Wild West.

Lack of detail? Look people on this thread post criminal reports and slander specific people all the time and now no names? I might believe the story if more details were shared. If true it is a horrible program and we should all be told who it is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First I do not believe your story. Details lacking and does not seem real. Second go find another thread to push your agenda.

Sounds like this isn’t the thread for you. Bye! Don’t let the door hit you on the way out,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy on generalizing about south. I have met more racist from the Boston area than I ever came across in school down in South Georgia.

And I have the exact opposite experience. The deep southerners just hide their racism behind syrupy faux-politeness.

Aren’t meaningless anecdotes grand?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Name the program.

OP can’t as it is a made up story

Shoo. The adults are talking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does DS, DH, and DD mean?

Dear Son, Dear Husband, Dear Daughter

Is there a reason for this type of notation? It appears to be commonly used on the lacrosse forums.

[Anonymous]

If this is true I would tell my son that we are leaving a club that doesn’t fit with our values as a family and that there are some things more important than staying with a winning team. If you chose to stay and your son is aware of everything that happened and you stayed you are also sending a strong message to him about what you’re willing to tolerate.

[Anonymous]

Be honest. I would pull my child for the way the coach handled it. They should remove the bullying child. Next it could be your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be honest. I would pull my child for the way the coach handled it. They should remove the bullying child. Next it could be your child.

+ 1

[Anonymous]

You can't solve other people's problems.

You can't solve "racism" by yourself.

If your DS wants to be on the team, let him go ahead. Let him decide for himself if it's bad enough to quit.

[Anonymous]

Tell the Wapo —they will make it front page race bait story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does DS, DH, and DD mean?

Dear Son, Dear Husband, Dear Daughter

Is there a reason for this type of notation? It appears to be commonly used on the lacrosse forums.

It's used on basically every forum on the internet, lacrosse or not. Who knows why, but it's been that way since the dawn of the internet.