WWYD and how to explain this to DS

[Anonymous]

DS has been with the same lacrosse team for two years and it is a mostly white team. It's a strong team but not competitive on a national level. The kids are teens and DS does not have any ambitions to play in college but I think a few others might. Last week DS found out that some of teammates were harassing one of the other players who is not white. They were talking about it in a chat that DS was on and DS showed them to us. It was really bad.

DS is not close friends with this player but is friendly with and likes and respects him. Someone apparently forwarded the messages to the non-white players' parents because the family messaged us and a few other families letting us know they were pulling their player off the team and due to racial harassment. They explained they had talked to the coach, who is white, and the coach did not seem to care and said something about "boys will be boys" and then said something about how "you people" make a big deal out of nothing. DH tried to talk to the coach after practice the next day and said something similar to DH about "those people."

DH have talked and we are planning to pull DS from the team. We tried to talk to the other parents but they seem to care more about their child's sports and won't leave the team. We are not in the DMV but in an area south so it should not have been surprising but it was.

What would you have done? What should we say to DS to make him understand why this is important?

[Anonymous]

First I do not believe your story. Details lacking and does not seem real. Second go find another thread to push your agenda.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]First I do not believe your story. Details lacking and does not seem real. Second go find another thread to push your agenda.

Of course you don't, nutter.
OP started this thread. YOU can skip it.
NP

[Anonymous]

If your son is a teen you shouldn't have to "make him understand" why this is important. He should understand that you don't accept racism. Because ideally you've been talking to him about race and privilege since he was little.

[Anonymous]

Something similar happened on DD's team (not lacrosse) and it was shocking how many other parents just pretended they didn't know what happened so they could stay on the team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First I do not believe your story. Details lacking and does not seem real. Second go find another thread to push your agenda.

It really tells you something about someone when they claim stories about racism are fake.

[Anonymous]

Report the coach to the state governing authority. He should not be allowed around kids.

[Anonymous]

Report the coach and the players involved. That is the only decent thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Report the coach to the state governing authority. He should not be allowed around kids.

This!

[Anonymous]

Leave the team and don’t look back. You did nothing wrong. Get away from that coach.

[Anonymous]

You kid understands it’s wrong, that’s why he showed you the texts.
Good for you for leaving the team and I think your son will understand the lesson.

[Anonymous]

What does DS, DH, and DD mean?

[Anonymous]

Easy on generalizing about south. I have met more racist from the Boston area than I ever came across in school down in South Georgia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does DS, DH, and DD mean?

Dear Son, Dear Husband, Dear Daughter

[Anonymous]

Name the program.