Guys reaching out for second date 2 weeks after first
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Anonymous
Oh phleeze. Then if they respond earlier, the complaint would be they are too needy. |
Anonymous
| Go if you want to go, don’t go if you don’t. If you’re concerned that they aren’t into you, don’t sleep with them until they show more enthusiasm. No harm in going to see an art exhibit for an hour |
Anonymous
| You made the first round of interviews, congrats |
Anonymous
| OP, you are overthinking this. If you are looking for a reason to be alone, then don't go out with them. You have nothing to lose by going out with them, so if you are interested in not being alone, then give it a shot. |
Anonymous
This. Why would anyone dismiss a potentially interesting person for not responding within some completely arbitrary, fabricated time frame? That's punishing people for having lives. It's a "rule" invented by someone who thinks they're the center of the universe. Not meaning you, OP, but the people who actually believe this "rule" BS matters. My money is on these types of rules originating with self-important "influencers" or self-appointed relationship gurus. Don't let them dictate to you. You want to go on this date? Just go. Do not overthink it. |
Anonymous
Two weeks though?? |
Anonymous
| My now DH did this. I was also dating quite a bit, so I didn't get hung up on it. After a couple of dates, we went several months without checking in with each other but reconnected and were very tight from that point on. If I had let my ego get in the way, who knows what would have happened? Fortunately, at the time, I was young and beautiful and knew it. |
Anonymous
| Give them a chance. At least the one with tickets. Keep dating others. They are, and if not they’re busy enough that you have the time and options. |
Anonymous
I'd say 3 days. But if there's no connection within 3 days, I'd say this is not a potential life partner. Two weeks is a booty call. |
Anonymous
Immature thinking. How old are you? People have work, work travel, other obligations. Two weeks can go by in a flash at times for people who are busy and engaged with other parts of their lives besides dating. Three days is a deadline based 100 percent on...nothing at all. As for booty calls, if OP didn't have sex on the first date, why would men think that a second date two weeks later is magically going to end up in bed? I'd say the opposite, that a call two weeks later is likelier a real indicator of interest--they've been thinking about her and haven't just dropped the ball-- and the three-day call is the shallow, thirsty "I just can't WAIT any longer" booty call. |
Anonymous
| I’d go see the art show and see how it goes. |
Anonymous
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OP, what are your plans the nights that these gentlemen are proposing to see you again?
Perhaps you’re so busy with dates that it doesn’t matter, but if you were, I trust you wouldn’t bother seeking validation here. If you’re confident that you’re super high value and can forgo two men, then move along. |
Anonymous
Just go and report back! I haven’t had a date in a while so I need to live vicariously through you 
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Anonymous
| OP here: I have plenty of interest, and was dating someone during these 2 weeks, but by coincidence just recently broke up with them. When I do publish my profile, it gets bombed and men tell me at first date I'm a very beautiful woman - even better than pics. Second date chance is nearly 100% with invite within 24 hrs max. These 2 were not particular impressive, I would say boring. I'll respond to them in 2 weeks agreeing to a second date (and see if either one can still remember me) |
Anonymous
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What's funny is both texted me within an hour today, as if there is some sort of quantity&quality crisis with available females on the apps Or maybe they are twin brothers dating in parallel. LOL
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