Guys reaching out for second date 2 weeks after first

[Anonymous]

I have a coffee date with one guy 2 weeks ago and a video call with another around same time. Not bad intros, but hard to say if I was particular interested, and I rarely feel anything on date 1 for anyone. It takes me 2-3 dates to see if there is chemistry.

The guys didn't text right after, but both followed up in 2 weeks. One just texted apologizing that he was busy, and asked how I was doing. The other is inviting for an exhibit this weekend (he's got tickets).

Would you respond to a guy if he didn't follow the "2 days" rule and didn't ask out right away?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Rules are total bs.

[Anonymous]

How old are you? Are you dating for fun or for marriage?

[Anonymous]

If they were really interested they would
have followed up sooner. How do you feel about that?

[Anonymous]

I’m not particular interested in either of them. One just said he was completing a marathon, another he was busy at work (he represented himself as a very busy business person). Dating for marriage or LTR.

[Anonymous]

No pit bulls in your home. They’re only safe until they’re not.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t sound like they are very interested in you either if they waited two weeks. If you’re not really interested in them I’d take a pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No pit bulls in your home. They’re only safe until they’re not.

Can you translate please ?

[Anonymous]

If there was a chance for something to blossom, I'd go ahead with it. It's very possible that they are like you and take 2-3 dates to warm up to someone.

[Anonymous]

the others in their stable are keeping them busy.

[Anonymous]

They’re either divorced parents or dating others

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the others in their stable are keeping them busy.

You can think this way and find a reason to reject everyone and stay single, or you can give it a chance.

[Anonymous]

I mean, what is wrong with dating others at this point?

[Anonymous]

OP, you may have to reconsider your past: whatever you thought worked, didn't. Thinking there were "rules". There aren't.

[Anonymous]

Well, not to be snarky, maybe your reluctance says a lot about why you’re still single if you want to be partnered?

I’m unaware of any “rules” about dating (other than those about enthusiastic consent). You already say that you’re not excited about people until you’ve had multiple encounters, so I’m trying to figure out what you have to lose by going out with these guys multiple times?

They’re busy. Hopefully, you are too. You could have contacted either of them as well.