How much bad behavior is acceptable?

[Anonymous]

In all fairness, the female uniform skirts in privates are pretty skimpy.

[Anonymous]

In some ways it was worse in the 90s. Openly accepted bullying - sometimes by teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids are in their last year of private and will be going public next year (4th, 6th, 11th grade). More than one friend has said we're in for a rude awakening: swearing, screaming, skimpy clothing, physical altercations, etc. Not to sound ridiculously out of touch, but this certainly wasn't how public school was in the late 90's. Are they overstating what schools will tolerate?

This happened in the 90s too.

Not at “good” UMC schools. I graduated in early 2000s and can’t recall a single fight in the hallway, anyone swearing at the teacher, or the other terrible behavior that happens frequently now.

My kids went to private until middle school, then moved to public- and not a wealthy UMC one. There are tons of behavioral issues. But honestly it doesn’t really affect my kids. They are taking advantage of all sorts of amazing academic opportunities at school that there is little competition for. It’s actually great. The teachers have been gems for far. But I don’t expect the teachers to work miracles- we heavily supplement material at home

[Anonymous]

I haven’t seen any particularly skimpy clothes. Sometimes the HS girls will have a bit of tummy showing/slightly cropped tops, but with a big flannel or a sweatshirt over top. Other than that they are way more covered up than we were in the 90s and early 2000s. Big PJ pants and sweatpants/sweatshirts are the norm with sneakers or crocs/sandals with socks.

The other stuff definitely does happen. What a PP said about there being good years and bad years is pretty much correct. It’s unpredictable. Unfortunately 4th/6th/11th graders all suffered from the Covid school shutdowns so behavior is all over the place. It was already trending that way before Covid, and the extended closures made it much worse. There are no REAL consequences at the elementary level and few in MS/HS. The only things they come down hard on are weapons offenses.