How physically attracted are you to your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Very, our bedroom is the opposite of dead. 17 years together, ages 45 and 50.

[Anonymous]

We've aged mediocrely and have been together for long and weren't Gigi Hadid and Zayn Malick to begin with but we've always found each other attractive, through every phase of life.

[Anonymous]

No. Together for almost 30 years. I can recognize he is not an unattractive man for his age objectively. But I don’t think either one of us is really attracted to each other anymore. Honestly, our relationship was never really that HOT passion. We were more like really good friends who had sex. Now we’re just like really good friends.

[Anonymous]

Most definitely. I think he's more handsome now than the day we married.....he just gets better looking actually! Married 22 years (known him since 6th grade though )

[Anonymous]

I met him when I was 16 years old and it was like lightning. He’s still the only man I want even though our marriage has had some major lows and there was a time when I wanted to leave because of certain behaviors. But physically I always want him close, I want sex with him pretty much every day.

[Anonymous]

I feel kind of defective when this question is asked. I love my husband, and I like having sex with him. I don’t feel, like, sexually aroused just by looking at him. And he could look a lot different (gain/lose weight, lose his hair, have some kind of maiming physical injury), and I would still like having sex with him about the same amount.

[Anonymous]

No. Hasn't been since we were married 10 years. Gained weight and became lazy.

[Anonymous]

Together 20 years, late 40s and 50s. We have both maintained our weight and he still has a 6 pack.

[Anonymous]

Married for 23 years. Find DH more attractive then when I met her. Really. Truly.

What I find surprising is, when I look at her pictures when she is younger, I find that she was incredibly more attractive than what I felt at that time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married for 23 years. Find DH more attractive then when I met her. Really. Truly.

What I find surprising is, when I look at her pictures when she is younger, I find that she was incredibly more attractive than what I felt at that time.

Should be DW. Maybe I am referring to me....

[Anonymous]

0% - he's gotten that awful cellphone hunched over hump in his back / posture. which i feel is so representative of how he is (hunched over his phone all the time closed off and unaware of real life and real people happening around him)

[Anonymous]

There is a lot of reporting bias on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Yes. DH is hot AF. He likely wouldn’t say the same for me, with my 40lb weight gain. He doesn’t show it. He continues to love me and our bedroom is alive and well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel kind of defective when this question is asked. I love my husband, and I like having sex with him. I don’t feel, like, sexually aroused just by looking at him. And he could look a lot different (gain/lose weight, lose his hair, have some kind of maiming physical injury), and I would still like having sex with him about the same amount.

No, you are normal. Men are inherently gross unless they are built like Adonis. Women are visually arousing. And I'm a hetero cis woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel kind of defective when this question is asked. I love my husband, and I like having sex with him. I don’t feel, like, sexually aroused just by looking at him. And he could look a lot different (gain/lose weight, lose his hair, have some kind of maiming physical injury), and I would still like having sex with him about the same amount.

No, you are normal. Men are inherently gross unless they are built like Adonis. Women are visually arousing. And I'm a hetero cis woman.

I'd like to kindly suggest that you may want to reconsider how hetero you really are.